Female Sexual Issues Support Group
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...
For one, I was molested from 7 yrs old until I was 12 years old. I was also forced into sex by an ex.
Two, I was wearing a skirt when I was little and stepped over a fence and raked my clitoris through my underwear and it bled and is not sensitive.
I feel like something is wrong with me because I need a little roughness and pain with sex. My fiance doesn't really want sex alot, he's five years older than I and he was sexually abused as a child as well. He loves me and we find each other attractive, but he's almost never in the mood for me. I have a hard time telling him the things I like and he gets frustrated when he can't make me finish with oral like the girls before me. He really tries and gets upset when I am the one that makes myself finish by being on top.
I find that when I do it myself, with a vibrator, it takes me forever and I have to scratch myself and press the vibrator down hard on one spot.
I've never had a true Vaginal orgasm. My fiance thinks it's his fault but no one has ever made me.
Another thing I find horrible about myself is if it's not painful, I imagine getting pregnant. I have dated men in the past and discussed my miscarriages with them and every last one of them has said something about getting me pregnant during sex, even though I used condoms. I admit that I was more aroused and it weirds me out that I was. I feel like this isn't normal. I also like the rush of having my fiance go.... inside me. I never LET anyone but him, the father of my miscarried babies used the pull out method and was kind of slow at it.
But I feel like something is wrong with me for having a rush when I see he's about to finish and he doesn't get what I like about it.
IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?
Two, I was wearing a skirt when I was little and stepped over a fence and raked my clitoris through my underwear and it bled and is not sensitive.
I feel like something is wrong with me because I need a little roughness and pain with sex. My fiance doesn't really want sex alot, he's five years older than I and he was sexually abused as a child as well. He loves me and we find each other attractive, but he's almost never in the mood for me. I have a hard time telling him the things I like and he gets frustrated when he can't make me finish with oral like the girls before me. He really tries and gets upset when I am the one that makes myself finish by being on top.
I find that when I do it myself, with a vibrator, it takes me forever and I have to scratch myself and press the vibrator down hard on one spot.
I've never had a true Vaginal orgasm. My fiance thinks it's his fault but no one has ever made me.
Another thing I find horrible about myself is if it's not painful, I imagine getting pregnant. I have dated men in the past and discussed my miscarriages with them and every last one of them has said something about getting me pregnant during sex, even though I used condoms. I admit that I was more aroused and it weirds me out that I was. I feel like this isn't normal. I also like the rush of having my fiance go.... inside me. I never LET anyone but him, the father of my miscarried babies used the pull out method and was kind of slow at it.
But I feel like something is wrong with me for having a rush when I see he's about to finish and he doesn't get what I like about it.
IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME?
I think if your mind is not in it, or you are desperate to feel that sensation of an orgasam...it can take a lot lot longer to reach it, even with toys. I think women are bit different to men as in they have to really be in the mood for it to happen, plus is there any kinda rules as to whats right or wrong in how long it takes for you to come?? In respects to using toys little roughly, i find myself doing so too....i dont stop and think to myself 'my god is this normal, should i be doing this so hard' sometimes to get that right spot have to be a little heavy handed as such. Just as long as not causing yourself any kind of pain, i personally believe thats alright. you may find other times your really sensitive and using toys gently is enough to get you off.....there are no rules for masturbation, its a personal, private thing....and if its provding what you need then keep doing what works for you.
As for that rush when about to see him come.....to me there is absoluetly nothing more a turn on than seeing a guy come, find it such a turn on, such a rush of pleasure in myself for seeing it.....and yes feeling a guy come inside you again is one those fairly incrediably feelings.....but one to be shared with someone you trust, and with other contraception if having children isnt on the cards for you yet.