get on to the subjests of wild fantasys and ask what he would do/want and u tell him and see if that works - theres always naughty pressents for u both, porn or tell him how u feel

Show him and tell him until he get's it. I can tell you this because I am a man, we are not too smart. It takes a lot of showing and telling before it soaks in. Just keep it up and one day he will understand.

Rather then telling him precisley what you want, and to prevent getting him to do the same exact thing over and over.... What is your sexual style? Are you sexually ambitious? A bit of an exhibitionist? Maybe if you can communicate that to him it would help give him a means to an end, so to speak....? Might put him on the right track.

Do you have these conversations with him when you are NOT in bed with him? If not, I suggest that you do so. Your frustration level will likely be less, if you do it then.
And he, since not in the 'throes' of sexaul arousal, might be able to hear it better.
I wouldn't be at all critical, when doing this!! I would just be extremely explicit about exactly what turns me on and I would state each thing and then immediately ask him if he was willing to do it. I might, depending on how he is, describe the whole scenario, from beginning to end, of how I would like it to go, and then ask him if he was willing to do it for you.
If he's not agreeable to it, I think you must consider that you have a significant problem to be surmounted. And I would ask him to state exactly why he didn't want to do it.
Perhaps some couples counseling would be in order. Sometimes, it's the only way to make two people really listen to each other, with respect and caring!!
Good luck!!! I really don't think you are asking for anything the least bit unreasonable and hope that you can get it!!!
Good luck to the both of you!!!
Take care!!!!

I think my husband needs to see a sex therapist or something.His idea of foreplay is pinching my nipples and that doesn't turn me on.we watches porn on his computer and still doesn't get any ideas.I don't mind him looking at that stuff.I'm hoping it will help him out.

Is there any chance you can steer him towards the kind of erotica sites that you happen to like? I tend to prefer good fiction to the more visual stuff, just my own preference because I often find it more informative (and realistic!)

joybells i know just how you feel. my husband is the same way. he has no clue where my clit even is. i mean he does when it's in his face, but to rub or touch hell no. whats offel is he thinks he's great. the only reason i can even cum is because i know what i want and do it. i don't know about your husband, but mine's all about him. he thinks if he touches me for a couple mins that does it, ha ya right. actually he told me when we were first together everyone's responceable for ther own. (that was 15yrs ago) so iv'e learned. your also talking about watching porn to help? well it realy helps but it gets old when you have it on every single time. all we can do is keep trying and talking and hopefully one day it will get through there thick skulls. i also think counceling would help. we go but weve just haven't got to the sex probls yet. i also think alot has to do with there ego's if they can handel what your telling them. well hang in there and keep trying and talking. i know i'm not giveing up! good luck 500SL.

YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY 1 OUT THERE MY MAN THINKS DOING THE HOLE NIPPLE THING IS MENT TO MAKE ME WANT SEX IT DOSENT DO A DAM THING HELL I BREST FEED 3KIDS THAY NOT AS SENCITIVE AS THAY USTO BE AND HE WANT TRY NEW THINGS EITHER IF I TELL HIM IM STILL HORNY AFTER SEX OF I WANT TO TRY THIS OR THAT HE TELLS ME I SHOULD FIND A GUY WHO WILL DO WHAT I WANT COS HE THINKS HE IS SHIT HOT IN BED YOU JUST CANT TELL GUYS WITHOUT THEM TAKING IT THE WRONG WAY.

togirl: mine thinks he's the shit 2. heck if i'm still horney after i just take care of myself. he's a 1 cum man that's all you get. thank god for his ripped body and pretty member. what realy sucks is i love him to death so it hurts, maybe you can relate? no kissing now that's the iceing on the cake, it's the most terrable thing in our sexual relationship!!!!! i think talking or leaving are the only soulation, i'm still here sooooooo. well good luck 500SL.