
Female Sexual Issues Support Group
Sexual dysfunction or sexual malfunction is difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (which includes desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) that prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity. Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual...
And he, since not in the 'throes' of sexaul arousal, might be able to hear it better.
I wouldn't be at all critical, when doing this!! I would just be extremely explicit about exactly what turns me on and I would state each thing and then immediately ask him if he was willing to do it. I might, depending on how he is, describe the whole scenario, from beginning to end, of how I would like it to go, and then ask him if he was willing to do it for you.
If he's not agreeable to it, I think you must consider that you have a significant problem to be surmounted. And I would ask him to state exactly why he didn't want to do it.
Perhaps some couples counseling would be in order. Sometimes, it's the only way to make two people really listen to each other, with respect and caring!!
Good luck!!! I really don't think you are asking for anything the least bit unreasonable and hope that you can get it!!!
Good luck to the both of you!!!
Take care!!!!