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meddle
meddle
I am recently separated from a 14 year marriage and finding that being alone is not so bad at times. Sure, I'm certainly lonely but have discovered so much about myself during the past 5 months. I am learning to cook, continuing college and have realized that I was living her life not mine. Anyone else find themselves with similar circumstances?
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
There are time when I very much enjoy being alone. I have a number of interests and, often times, enjoy being able to follow my interests by myself.

However, there are other times when I wish I were not alone...when I would like to go to a movie, ballgame, etc. with a friend. To be able to call someone and share the good/bad things going on in my life, to share my dreams/fears, to get advice, to share my faith, etc.

If you have a good "support network" of friends, family, co-workers, etc. then you may finding having some alone time is enjoyable...and even beneficial...knowing that if you ever got lonely you have people who love you to reach out to.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that "loneliness by choice" has its benefits, but "undesired loneliness" can be extremely painful and frustrating.
jdark87
jdark87
I'm feeling pretty much like that. I find myself in a relationship that's not leaving me time to spend with myself. Everything is so intense and I never find time to do things by myself. A friend of mine says that my relationship is taking everything for me and that the worst part is that I'm still very young (21) and there are things that I haven't experienced in my life.
As far as I'm concerned, I think this relationship is taking a big toll out of me.
I'm thinking about leaving her :(
deleted_user
deleted_user
Guess there's a diff. between being alone and lonely huh?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been alone all my life. Never gets easier and it's hard finding things to FILL up the time and days.
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
prehous1, you're right in that being alone never gets easier. For me it gets worse...as my mortality sets in and I have a sense of missing out on so muc in life by not having close friends to share my life with.
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