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What should I do?

ruthgrps
ruthgrps

What would you do if your husband makes your nerves bad, although there has been no reason for it, except he had an affair a few years ago.  Today he went out so iit was only me and my daughter at home, my nerves calmed, when he came back my stomach churned again.

joy333456
joy333456
just breathe you are good enough you are strong keep telling yourself that. focus on your daughter when he's around to keep you calm I'm guessing she's the light in your world so focus on her to hello soothe your mind. I support you through this I'm sorry I'm not more help. all the best to you
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
There is a reason for your disquiet - he had an affair, broke your trust, broke his commitment to you. Even though it was a few years ago, apparently the hurt hasn't healed. Have you and your husband actively worked together to repair the damage done to your relationship? If not, it would behoove you both to seek counseling. If he doesn't feel that is necessary, seek counseling for yourself. It may aid in determining why your stomach churns and you feel you walk on eggshells.
jennifera
jennifera
I agree with Cora Belle but if you've done all that and he's proven his commitment to you and you still feel like this, then you may need to make other changes.

Talk to a therapist about your anxiety.

Good healthy quality relationships don't make you feel like this.
Beachcomber
Beachcomber
Ruth can you get some good trauma counseling. Cheating takes a toll on the betrayed spouse's health and mental well being. There is no such thing as "forgive and forget." when it comes to cheating. The mind is not designed to "forget" harmful, traumatizing experiences. The pain of his affair is still bouncing around in your body and mind.

I developed PTSD when I found out my pervy husband had a secret life right under my nose. I suffered from all sorts of physical and emotional symptoms and I had no idea why. Then...I found a trauma counselor who helped shed light on why I was suffering. I was relieved ....but still struggling with what he did behind my back.