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Upset and frightened

Littlefeather
Littlefeather
My husband and I are just not getting along and that is the understatement of the century. His verbal abuse is off the charts. This week he was gone for five days. He came home and in five hours he was at it again. This time he had called a cable company about Fios, but wanted to see if Direct TV could come first and see if there was a line of sight. I guess he didn't like what he heard because he shoved a phone into my hand in a way it hurt. I chucked the phone...it was out of instinct. All I can say is it just surprised me, and that was my first response. Since then he's been on a rampage against me. He insists I'm mentally ill (and no psychiatrist has deemed me so.) He insists I take some sort of medication for psychiatric issues and go to a psychiatrist. I do not feel I need such medications. He says that if I don't do this he'll leave me. What on earth do I do:(
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry to hear you are going through so much right now and it sounds like it is quite overwhelming. You certainly can't stop your husband from leaving if that is what he decides to do. But in the meantime it might be a good idea to focus on fixing your feelings and emotions and being able to function again. If your husband is willing to go to counseling with you it might help but if not I think you should go alone and if you are already seeking help but things are not getting better you might want to consider finding another counselor.

I know it is scary to possibly have to deal with a separation but I also believe that you should not depend upon anyone to have a happy life and it just kind of sounds like by your post you are feeling trapped and your husband threatening to leave you is not going to help. Anyway focus on yourself and getting well. If you have close friends or family that you trust give them a call. Just knowing you have support can help a great deal in helping you deal with all of these problems and feelings.

I hope this helps a bit for you and much happier days find you very soon. Wishing you the very best:)
Littlefeather
Littlefeather
I did something drastic to get his attention. I recorded him during a very vicious rant he was on. He goes through cycles like this and they are completely devastating. He was blown away when he heard himself. One of the things he said tonight was that I used to know what to say to him, I was very in tune, intuitive. Well...after years of abuse and invalidation I tuned out...is it any wonder I am not intuitive with him? Who wants to be in tune, intuitive with a verbally abusive, invalidating human being?
deleted_user
deleted_user
It sounds like hes the one that needs some intense counseling. he sounds very unhappy and is taking his frustrations out on you. Maybe he needs some anti-depressants. You need to talk to him and see if hes willing to get help if not, I would suggest getting away from all the cruelness that he exposes you too. It could get worse and in these cases it usually does and remember you have got to think of yourself first. Good luck and say a prayer for him and yourself.