hm, I am sorry for your loss.

Perhaps I am reading your post wrong, but I do not understand what you mean by the cousins receiving the comfort exactly.

I am assuming you mean that they are receiving family's and friend's attentions and you are not. If this is the case, maybe the family and friends see you as the strongest person and need less emotional support. We forget sometimes that all people grieve differently, and the people who make the biggest spectacle are not always the ones who are grieving. It is just easier to tell who is receptive of our comfort but the public display of emotion.

If you are like me, you push all emotion away until all the necessities are met. Then, you break down in walmart when you cannot decide between paper or plastic bags. People like me don't show grief the same as others, so many times it is assumed that we are well when we are not.

Either way, I am sorry for your loss and hope you do receive the comforts you seek in the near future.

Thanks :)

Big hug for you hm... I'm so sorry that you've lost your Grandma... I'm a big believer in asking for what you need... If you're talking to a family member I would let them know how much you're going to miss your Grandma and how painful the grief is
Another hug and a blessing...xo

Why do you not want them to see that it bothers you?

My grandmother died about a month ago. I was sad, but okay because I had my peace with her.

My mother did nothing to comfort me... all she did was trash talk my grandmother (her mother). So did my father.

Point is, I can relate.

What would your grandmother want you to do???

Hugs, and you have my sympathy.

Build your own support network.

Pay attention to those that support you, and support them back.

Sometimes Family aren't the most supportive and wanna fight like bears for too much of the pie.

I know a family with so many members who are always at war with each other. They're so dysfunctional. One little girl in that family is only Seven and is already on Facebook.

Anger is also a stage of grief and this ? may be what you're feeling....xo

https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

Just found out from my mom that the family does view me as the strongest grandkid. However they don't seem to realize that even the strongest need support. Time to find that support elsewhere I guess.
Thanks for all the replies!

Why can't you just say, "Hey... I need some support, too!"

Why walk away instead? I feel like there's more to the story...?

Well, it's not fair that no one really cares about anyone else who is hurting except for your two cousins.

You don't have to hide that it bothers you if you don't want. You are allowed to feel how you feel.

I'm sorry for what you are going through right now.

I have to agree with "Snowbodyinparticular". I think when family members see you as a strong individual, they tend to forget that you also have weaknesses and feelings.

I am so sorry for the loss of your Grandmother. I hope that you get the strength you need from others in your social circle.