Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Hey,
I'm looking for anyone who may have been in similar situation with family members,
My story - I am a mum, I also work full time
While I work, my own mum looks after my kids while also being a carer for my grandmother
My father is a full time carer for my other gran
My grandmother (mums side) is in her 90s, she's able to get around & cook for herself, take showers etc, just needs help as sometimes she's clumsy and forgetful
Recently while visiting my grandmother my aunt turned up, (having not visited for months!) she started shouting at me and my mum saying we're not doing enough to help my grandmother, said I don't know what hard work is, and her words were that me and my family do f*ck all...
And yet she's the one who doesn't visit for months on end! We go to my grandmothers house everyday 3-4 times a day, that includes myself in between my shifts at work,
She verbally attacked me in front of my children, one is old enough unfortunately to have understood every word she said, she got so personal and nasty I was in shock!
I promptly left the situation having told her she has no right to talk about me and my family in such a way...
Now she has turned the rest of my mums side of the family against us, I don't know exactly what's been said, but all I can see is them once again saying all sorts of nasty things about us on social media sites,
She has always made it pretty obvious she believes she is better than us (she married into money) but for all these years I've kept my opinions to myself and just made an effort with them for my grandmothers sake.
It all came from nowhere, it's upset and angered me so much I feel sick, dizzy and can't eat properly
I hope this makes sense! I'm typing through frustrated tears!
Thanks for reading xoxo
I'm looking for anyone who may have been in similar situation with family members,
My story - I am a mum, I also work full time
While I work, my own mum looks after my kids while also being a carer for my grandmother
My father is a full time carer for my other gran
My grandmother (mums side) is in her 90s, she's able to get around & cook for herself, take showers etc, just needs help as sometimes she's clumsy and forgetful
Recently while visiting my grandmother my aunt turned up, (having not visited for months!) she started shouting at me and my mum saying we're not doing enough to help my grandmother, said I don't know what hard work is, and her words were that me and my family do f*ck all...
And yet she's the one who doesn't visit for months on end! We go to my grandmothers house everyday 3-4 times a day, that includes myself in between my shifts at work,
She verbally attacked me in front of my children, one is old enough unfortunately to have understood every word she said, she got so personal and nasty I was in shock!
I promptly left the situation having told her she has no right to talk about me and my family in such a way...
Now she has turned the rest of my mums side of the family against us, I don't know exactly what's been said, but all I can see is them once again saying all sorts of nasty things about us on social media sites,
She has always made it pretty obvious she believes she is better than us (she married into money) but for all these years I've kept my opinions to myself and just made an effort with them for my grandmothers sake.
It all came from nowhere, it's upset and angered me so much I feel sick, dizzy and can't eat properly
I hope this makes sense! I'm typing through frustrated tears!
Thanks for reading xoxo
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grill tonight with charcoal.....turned out good but had some stuff that I had to feed to Belle and Happy because it was grissley. it tasted pretty good and was a perfect mid rare....
And people who's opinion I don't value...and I don't care what they think.
I spend my time thinking and caring about the feelings in the first group. And I just push aside the second. I don't wish the second group ill will...I just have a boundary up on Myself...where I won't think about them.
Does that mean that there are people who have trashed me and "gotten away" with it? Yup. Absolutely. But it doesn't upset, anger, or bother me in the slightest. Sooner or later those people will also say the same sorts of things to others. I've seen people spend years trying to change the other person, or figure out what was wrong with them.
What I'm saying is that you can't change your Aunt. She is who she is. And if the "family" wants to go along with it...they will. Your getting upset isn't going to make it better, worse, or change it in the slightest.
It wouldn't be worth my time, but you could update posts 3-4 times a day about each visit with your grandmother. Doing so might help you win this "battle", but it's likely to just make your aunt more angry and dug in. Not your fault...but generally when people are acting like (profanity deleted) jerks...what you want is for them to move on...not stay obsessing over you.
I'd tuck the information in my back pocket, and know that whoever my aunt hates...has got a good chance of being a nice person.