n2 of over 100 incidents of my mother lying to me in my childhood that caused great mental scarsm

 Lie 1.  my mom and dad got married after i was conceived out of wedlock 6 months later he left because alcohol was more important than family

lie 2  when i was 7 my father wanted me in his life, and wanted me to live with him, i never met or saw him but i was told that he wanted me so bad he would kidnap me, i never saw a picture of him to know who he was so i lived in fear of all adult men because i worried they were him

truth one, my mom and dad did get married after i was conceived in the back of her car however my uncles never like my father and threatened to kill im if he did not leave he was a drinker but he wasnt an alcoholic   he told me this but the story was also confirmed buy a childhood friend of my mothers  so i grew up without a real father because my uncles thought my mom could do better

truth 2  my father did want to see me but he never was going to kidnap me he lived in tx at the time i live in pennsylvania every letter he mailed my mom she never answered he was worried if he came up here that my uncles there were 7 of them would swoop in and attack him so he kept his distance

basically those are two events in my life my mother who is a narcissist ruined my childhood i could write a novel on the things my mother did to me to ruin my life over and over and over again 

my question is has anyone who is now an adult realized that the life they grew up in was based on lies and how are you dealing with it