Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I haven't been in this site in years but I have found myself once again without anywhere to turn.
I am 19 and have dropped out of college because of all that has been going on. It is hard to sum it up but here it goes.
My mom is very mentally ill and I have known basically my whole life. Untill now it has been kept pretty much a secret from the rest of the world. I have taken care of her and the secret along with my father and 3 siblings. Over the years she has gotten more and more unstable. I got a call at college from my dad confessing the years of abuse he has faced from her and that he is considering divorce. The things he shared shook me to my core. I decieded to drop out and move on with my boyfriend.
Within weeks she had started going completely crazy. Much much more violent and was abusing drugs and alcohol on a daily basis. My dad feared for his life. One evening she snapped out of nowhere and began throwing things including a knife before taking off into the night barefoot. My brother who still lives at home called the police and they arrested her.
She spent the night in jail and the judge charged her with criminal damage and issued a 72 hour no contact order. She violated it time and time again. After it was up she remained out of the house for a few more days including one night where she slept under a bridge for no reason.
After her return and the police coming 3 more times an officer suggested my dad get a protection order.
We did just that and for a PFA order. She was given sometime to collect her things and leave. She ended up going out of state to her sister house and that is where she is now.
Me my dad and my brother didn't get finished moving out on time and had our possessions throw out on the lawn. Now the buyers realtor is suing us.
Just a few days ago I found out that my grandpa on my mom's side is on his deathbed.
Now I am pretty sure my boyfriend is going to break up with me
To sum it up, my mom is mentally ill and won't get help, is harassing my dad everyday dispite the PFA, my dad is being sued, My dad and brother are homeless, in could get a call anytime that my grandfather is dead, My boyfriend is going to break up with me and I will also be homeless.
I am 19 and have dropped out of college because of all that has been going on. It is hard to sum it up but here it goes.
My mom is very mentally ill and I have known basically my whole life. Untill now it has been kept pretty much a secret from the rest of the world. I have taken care of her and the secret along with my father and 3 siblings. Over the years she has gotten more and more unstable. I got a call at college from my dad confessing the years of abuse he has faced from her and that he is considering divorce. The things he shared shook me to my core. I decieded to drop out and move on with my boyfriend.
Within weeks she had started going completely crazy. Much much more violent and was abusing drugs and alcohol on a daily basis. My dad feared for his life. One evening she snapped out of nowhere and began throwing things including a knife before taking off into the night barefoot. My brother who still lives at home called the police and they arrested her.
She spent the night in jail and the judge charged her with criminal damage and issued a 72 hour no contact order. She violated it time and time again. After it was up she remained out of the house for a few more days including one night where she slept under a bridge for no reason.
After her return and the police coming 3 more times an officer suggested my dad get a protection order.
We did just that and for a PFA order. She was given sometime to collect her things and leave. She ended up going out of state to her sister house and that is where she is now.
Me my dad and my brother didn't get finished moving out on time and had our possessions throw out on the lawn. Now the buyers realtor is suing us.
Just a few days ago I found out that my grandpa on my mom's side is on his deathbed.
Now I am pretty sure my boyfriend is going to break up with me
To sum it up, my mom is mentally ill and won't get help, is harassing my dad everyday dispite the PFA, my dad is being sued, My dad and brother are homeless, in could get a call anytime that my grandfather is dead, My boyfriend is going to break up with me and I will also be homeless.
May I gently suggest doing whatever you have to do go get back in college. I don't know how long it's been since you dropped out, but that sounds like your only way to have a normal life is to get back into school and live there.
I'm sure if you tell them what happened, they will work with you. It seems that will be your only hope at a normal life. Don't let the problems of others get in the way of your education and well-being; even if they are your family.
I know it's extremely difficult, but you need to anchor yourself in this storm, and your classes will be good for you. So go back to school, tell them what's going on, and I'm sure they will work with you... if anything, to keep you paying tuition! And you can get student loans if you can prove all what you posted.
Keep writing here; it will keep you focused.
Hugs- I'm here if you want to chat more.