About 5 years ago I met my husband and a 6 month whirlwind romance later we were married. His ex has a son, who at the time I met him was 7. My hubby isn't his bio dad, but he's the only dad this kid has ever known. I'm fine with that, but not fine with certain things that have happened over the years. I expected things to be messed up, and they were. I wasn't exactly expecting my ss to develop a case of "sticky fingers"! I was told when he was younger he stole a chocolate bar from a store and was caught, having to bring it back and apologize. Several years later he steals a family members credit card, not to use but just because he thought it was funny and wanted to see how long before anyone noticed he had it. He would hide it between our house and his, several months later was caught with it and had to return it with an explanation and apology. Some time after that when things seemed to be fine between everyone involved in this sordid tale, my wedding ring is missing from the bathroom shelf where I had a habit of leaving it. I frantically searched everywhere for it, then suddenly got the overwhelming thought that ss had taken it. It was found hidden on one of his shelves in his room, me being furious and hurt, hubby playing the "no harm no foul" card. Last night I was looking for my tweezers, sure I had left them on the bathroom shelf where they always are, and ended up finding them tossed in a small box of marbles and other little toys in my ss's room! We've had a talk with him about how he would feel if someone took something of his, asking about trust and all that. Obviously the conversation hasn't helped much if he's still stealing things! But what gets me, lately its been just my stuff that turns up missing. And as long as I find whatever is missing, hubby doesn't see it as much of a problem. I'm wondering if the kid is a kleptomaniac or just out to torment me? Or maybe he's doing it for other reasons? I seem to be the only one concerned with his behavior so I'm just not sure what to do. He turned 12 a few months ago, and as far as I know things are fine at his house with his mom and her bf. I'm just not sure what is causing the urge to steal or why it's only my things... unless its because the objects are small and shiny. I'm at a total loss here! Any ideas or suggestions?
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