Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Hi guys, I'm fairly new to this support group and I can relate with the family issues.
I come from a dysfunctional family of 8 people. Six kids and my parents. I'm number five out of six. It's been very lonely all my life. Since I'm a middle child and the youngest daughter, I was always overlooked and ignored. I was the only one who graduated high school and went to college, but my parents said I was too stupid to do anything and went back to tending to my other siblings who would act stupid.
Right now, I had to move back home with my dad. My mom passed away nearly five years ago, so my dad has a girlfriend now. Two of my sisters live with us, along with a brother in law and a nephew. They are trying to suck every penny out of me. I've been asking and asking to get the cable out of my bedroom. It finally took the TV in the living room breaking and my sister taking my TV to get the cable out. I couldn't afford it and each week my sisters were adding money to my part of the bill. I gave them money for the bill already. In addition to all of this, I have to help with the lights and pay rent.
I'm also tired of being ostracized. I'm never invited to things because I'm always at work. My oldest sister is employed at my job and my siblings will hang out with her at HER convenience but not mine. They simply do things if I'm working or not. I'm getting tired of this and I wish I could move away but I can't due to lack of finances.
I come from a dysfunctional family of 8 people. Six kids and my parents. I'm number five out of six. It's been very lonely all my life. Since I'm a middle child and the youngest daughter, I was always overlooked and ignored. I was the only one who graduated high school and went to college, but my parents said I was too stupid to do anything and went back to tending to my other siblings who would act stupid.
Right now, I had to move back home with my dad. My mom passed away nearly five years ago, so my dad has a girlfriend now. Two of my sisters live with us, along with a brother in law and a nephew. They are trying to suck every penny out of me. I've been asking and asking to get the cable out of my bedroom. It finally took the TV in the living room breaking and my sister taking my TV to get the cable out. I couldn't afford it and each week my sisters were adding money to my part of the bill. I gave them money for the bill already. In addition to all of this, I have to help with the lights and pay rent.
I'm also tired of being ostracized. I'm never invited to things because I'm always at work. My oldest sister is employed at my job and my siblings will hang out with her at HER convenience but not mine. They simply do things if I'm working or not. I'm getting tired of this and I wish I could move away but I can't due to lack of finances.
Perhaps you could find a roommate or two that you can move in with that would give you much better living conditions and also be affordable as well. Maybe even a different job at some point would be an exciting and happier change for you as well. The best you can do is try and communicate your feelings but also focus on your goals and dreams. Meeting new people and making new friends I also think would help you a great deal as well. Remember you always have the power to control how people's behavior affect you and if you can keep that idea in your head no matter what your family does or does not do it won't stop you from having a happier life. I hope this helps a bit. Wishing you the very best and hoping those happier days find their way to you very soon:)
I say forget about trying to communicate with my family. They will NEVER listen to a word I say. If I could, I'd find a new job but no one has returned my applications.
You mentioned in your first post about the TV. I don't understand why you couldn't return your cable box and stop paying for it. And then I don't understand why you gave your TV to your siblings. That incident might be a good place to start. Why couldn't you make a decision and stick to it? Why are you giving your possessions to the family who you say ignores you?
You need to break the cycle. Find an impartial person who will help you find the truth. Either fix yourself or fix the situation.
hopefully, when u move out again, make sure u have your ducks in a row and that way you wont need ur family again. if that was me, id cut them out of my life once im out and gone.