Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
OK......I've been married 27 years and yes I have OCD. I've been treated for the last 20 years and both my doctor and friends feel I do really well. My issue is my relationship with my wife. I get blamed for all of our marriage issues. If only I was better I wouldn't get frustrated or angry with her. Well, she is a compulsive overeater and 140 pounds overweight. Juggles the check book to buy food and such. She is also poor with money due to this. I can never even have a civil conversation about money, cooking or much of anything with out her blowing up. It ALL gets turned to me. She has always refused to go to counseling together as they'll just gang up on me" as she says. "You need to get better before we can work on us " per her. Well, 20 years later I'm apparently no better as she still blames me....I know...lots to this story..I could write a book...but I'd like to start some dialogue if others experience the scapegoat problem with spouses ?
However, I would like to ask you if you love your wife anymore? If the answer is that you don't think you do. Then get out of this abusive relationship. You have OCD and don't need this. Leave and take your checkbook with you. Tell her to find some other checkbook to support her addiction to food. She doesn't seem to want to get help by seeing a physician to help her with this addiction (before she ends up being 1,000 lbs. and unable to get out of bed). She also does not want to see a marriage counselor to help your marriage. It is time for you to quit being the scapegoat sugar daddy and build a life for yourself that you can be happy in. Good Luck!!
If you do still love her, then be resigned to no changes in your life other than the increasing numbers on the bathroom scale as she steps onto it.
I am in no way anti-overweight people. I have a few pounds I could lose, too. My sister is obese, and I love her dearly - and so does her husband. However, she treats her husband with the utmost respect and love. They are the sweetest people you could find. I have many friends who are overweight by a large amount. I don't look at their bodies, I look at their kind and caring hearts. They don't emotionally, verbally, or mentally abuse their spouses. No one, including you, deserves to that from a spouse or anyone else. You are a valued person in this world, and don't forget it!