OK......I've been married 27 years and yes I have OCD. I've been treated for the last 20 years and both my doctor and friends feel I do really well. My issue is my relationship with my wife. I get blamed for all of our marriage issues. If only I was better I wouldn't get frustrated or angry with her. Well, she is a compulsive overeater and 140 pounds overweight. Juggles the check book to buy food and such. She is also poor with money due to this. I can never even have a civil conversation about money, cooking or much of anything with out her blowing up. It ALL gets turned to me. She has always refused to go to counseling together as they'll just gang up on me" as she says. "You need to get better before we can work on us " per her. Well, 20 years later I'm apparently no better as she still blames me....I know...lots to this story..I could write a book...but I'd like to start some dialogue if others experience the scapegoat problem with spouses ?
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