Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I feel like my relationship is falling apart and I don't know what to do to save it. Before anyone asks, YES! I do want to save it.
Me & my Fiance have had our share of problems in the past and we have always got through these with no real complications. We always came out stronger, and more determined to put these problems behind us. UNTIL recently, I lost our baby, since then our relationship hasn't been great. He has been AMAZING!! It's me. I haven't been able to grieve the loss of our baby for a number of reasons, if you view my Journal, you'll see all about this. I don't want to be close to my partner anymore, I make him sleep on the sofa, he's now been sleeping on the sofa since January. We don't kiss, cuddle and very rarely do we "do the deed" - I just want to be able to feel close to him again and be the way we used to be. I mean we used to be so stupid together, but it was fun, it was us, now we don't do that, it's like we are leading separate lives. Any advice would be great.
Me & my Fiance have had our share of problems in the past and we have always got through these with no real complications. We always came out stronger, and more determined to put these problems behind us. UNTIL recently, I lost our baby, since then our relationship hasn't been great. He has been AMAZING!! It's me. I haven't been able to grieve the loss of our baby for a number of reasons, if you view my Journal, you'll see all about this. I don't want to be close to my partner anymore, I make him sleep on the sofa, he's now been sleeping on the sofa since January. We don't kiss, cuddle and very rarely do we "do the deed" - I just want to be able to feel close to him again and be the way we used to be. I mean we used to be so stupid together, but it was fun, it was us, now we don't do that, it's like we are leading separate lives. Any advice would be great.
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Here is my new brother, copper :) He's so tiny! Moo and Tuck were ok with him on first meeting. Rocket due to his severe aggression will never meet Cooper.
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Would it be a good time for you to sit down with your fiance and have a good long talk about how you'd like to move forward and what you expect from each other? Follow that up with some couple's therapy. I think the therapy may help you both a lot.
For yourself, you've been through a very difficult ordeal but to continue to punish yourself and punish him won't bring you closer or help you get through the grief.
I'd say talk to him and make whatever goals together to get you both back to where your relationship once was.
I am so very sorry that you've lost your baby...
This also may well be partly hormonal ...Have you been seeing your doctor?
If not I would make an appt with your Gyne if you have one or at least your GP and let him/her know what you have been going through alone and in your relationship
There are many grief groups that are free in communities... I would perhaps look for something like this to help you and your partner...
A lot of people end up losing relationships due to this happening with grief... It would be so much better though for you to turn to each other in your time of need
I would slowly start to welcome him back into your life if you want your relationship to work DG.... Maybe start with sleeping together without sex and hugging...
Big hug for you and a blessing... There is healing to be had with time... There is a good bereavement board on here....xo