Where ever you want to sweetie.... We discuss here what we want to and how much or how little we want...... Big hug.....xo

Hi Suncloud
Thank you x

Well I did not have the perfect upbringing my parent's were always arguing .
My father had mental health issues i loved him when i was younger and felt sorry for him, it is now i am a adult myself and seen and discovered what he is and how he has treated my mother and me and my brother's growing up especially. He is a very selfish man he loves to play games with my mother and my mum has put up with this for too many year's but i don't know if this is because my mother has had a hard life. she lost her mother when she was about 9 due to a drunk driver and she had to look after her two younger brothers as my granddad worked and thing's were different back then my mother also was attacked in her teen's twice and is 99% sure one was the ripper. she managed to get away but was strangled and did not report it as she did not want my granddad to worry but does not make it the rite decision. And they a few year's later she met my dad and was married and had her first child at the age of 20 Maybe things would have been different if she still had her mother in her life to help make better decision's. I get so annoyed with my mother now as she need's to toughen up in a way where she not too nice and soft with other's especially my dad but she often say's she got that use to it and i am pretty much done worrying about it as iv my own life and issues to deal with i just wish she would not be so scared to stand up to other's who basically are taking the p***. I stand up to my father he does not like it he says iv no respect but is respect no a two way thing just because he classes himself as my father he thing's he automatically earn's the respect and iv to let him talk to me like crap and disrespect me. I have often said to my parent's they should not of had kid's they had 5. anyway not sure if me posting this will be any benefit to me.

Big hug for you sweetie....

I don't think there's such a thing as a perfect upbringing as we're all imperfect people

In regards to your parents marriage I think that needs to be between the two of them.... No one really knows what goes on behind closed doors and they choose to stay together

Do you live in your parents home now?.....

I think if you do they get to set rules for their home

I think that I would try not to fight just due to it being a more pleasant atmosphere (f you're living there)...

If you're unhappy and an adult you can always get your own place that would probably be my choice

I think boundaries are really important for all of us...Your mom is making her own choices....

I think you're wise to ' done worrying about it'...... This is the man she wants to be with or she could leave

.. Big hug.... I know it's hard seeing someone we love not treated well..........xo

Hi Suncloud

No i now have my own place
But before i got my own place i was living in my dads flat with him and my younger brother and my mum and i was going through hell been without my son's and was in court proceeding's my father could not help himself but cause argument's and say horrible thing's to me and blamed me for thing's i argued with him as this is how he makes people all my brother's have had fallout's with him as well and do not have much respect for him. My mum does not want to be married and want's to divorce him all he want's her for is to be a skivvy in his flat cook and clean and to moan at and abuse but in the past when she has tried to get rid of him he has manipulated her and got his own way my mother is weak and wish she was stronger. it is not alway's easy for women to leave a predator. maybe when iv sorted myself out more i can try again with my mother. Thank you for commenting Hug's x