Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I am married and have three wonderful children! I have two boys and one girl...
Our family has had a very rough year, lost my grandmother in February and then shortly after that my step daughter who has a serious drug addiction gave me for the 4th time my grandbabies to take care of until she got herself together, and in May protective services got involved and took them from her and us due to us not being blood related, the kids are now placed with other family, but we are not allowed to be in there lives like we are used too, and then on top of all of us this my daughter went to her school in the beginning of the year and told them that her father hit her and that her older brother had sexual touched her. (Four years ago she made the same accusation and I contacted CPS myself and had an investigation done and the outcome was they felt that she been told things from another source and that allegations were false) so when this all came out again and the allegations of my husband hitting her (which we all knew 100% was a lie and did finally admit that), it completely devastated my entire family.... This time around they made her leave the household and for a couple of days she was with family, but it wasn't working out, so I left my husband and my oldest son and went stayed with family for a while. Also prior to this we just had gotten done moving my parents closer to us.... So as I said this has completely devastated our entire family!!! Myself and my daughter are back at home now with my husband, but my oldest son is not allowed to be there and about to be homeless..... This is all just way tooooooooooooooooo much to handle and with the holidays coming up it is just making it harder!!! I am trying hard to be supportive of my daughter and my son, but I honestly don't know what I will do if he is actually charged with anything because I do NOT feel that the allegations are accurate!!! The other day my husband and I got into a huge fight, which was horrible.....
I am so lost and so tired.............. Sometimes I want so badly to just give up!
Our family has had a very rough year, lost my grandmother in February and then shortly after that my step daughter who has a serious drug addiction gave me for the 4th time my grandbabies to take care of until she got herself together, and in May protective services got involved and took them from her and us due to us not being blood related, the kids are now placed with other family, but we are not allowed to be in there lives like we are used too, and then on top of all of us this my daughter went to her school in the beginning of the year and told them that her father hit her and that her older brother had sexual touched her. (Four years ago she made the same accusation and I contacted CPS myself and had an investigation done and the outcome was they felt that she been told things from another source and that allegations were false) so when this all came out again and the allegations of my husband hitting her (which we all knew 100% was a lie and did finally admit that), it completely devastated my entire family.... This time around they made her leave the household and for a couple of days she was with family, but it wasn't working out, so I left my husband and my oldest son and went stayed with family for a while. Also prior to this we just had gotten done moving my parents closer to us.... So as I said this has completely devastated our entire family!!! Myself and my daughter are back at home now with my husband, but my oldest son is not allowed to be there and about to be homeless..... This is all just way tooooooooooooooooo much to handle and with the holidays coming up it is just making it harder!!! I am trying hard to be supportive of my daughter and my son, but I honestly don't know what I will do if he is actually charged with anything because I do NOT feel that the allegations are accurate!!! The other day my husband and I got into a huge fight, which was horrible.....
I am so lost and so tired.............. Sometimes I want so badly to just give up!
You daughter lied about being sexually abused and hit and your son is almost homeless???
I'd first focus on your marriage; united we stand; divided we fall, and all that...
Once you two are on the same page, you need to decide what you are going to do about your children.
Don't take care of grandkids if you can't take care of your own; leave that to their mother and blood relations.
Your daughter sounds sick; is she in therapy for compulsive lying?
What about the other two? How did it get this way?
Forget the holidays. Who cares. Just use that time to lie low and focus on family issues. Screw parties and giftgiving... Give the gift of attention to the family and try to make 2015 an improvement.
Hugs.
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Just calm down. Take a deep breath. Sit down with your husband and make a good plan for getting counseling and making living arrangements for your children until this is settled.
Best of luck to you and family,
--EJ