Family Issues Support Group

Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

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culdesac
culdesac
growing up was no fun. i come from a dysfunctional family. for as long as i can remember my mother has had depression. all the fighting and bickering and calling names was the reason that mayb triggered my brother's bipolar disorder and i lost him too. we used to be close but now he's just the shadow of the guy i used to love and have a good time with. i get really of what his future would be like.
deleted_user
deleted_user
All families are dysfunctional. Even the Brady Bunch had problems but they made fixing them seem so easy. Guess that's what happens when a TV show is over in 26 minutes.

You seem very concerned about your family. Are they having problems now? Remember too that we all grow up and change. Your brother is growing up and becoming himself which is not going to be the same as he was years ago. Just like you have changed so has he.

Try to look for the good memories and not dwell on the bad ones. Also look toward you future. You can't change the past but you can learn from it and make the future better.
culdesac
culdesac
i can make my future better and that's all i live for. but my family is all in pieces and they have been like this since ever. and i miss having a normal family to go home to and just feel good and loved but i don't. my past have made me the person i am today. i am a nice person generally, but on the inside i am sad and lonely.
deleted_user
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Consider this...even the richest families in the world have dark secrets. Even the most famous people are unhappy with their family.

So the idea that we should have a Leave it to Beaver family is TV fiction. And probably 75% of the great stuff people tell you about their families is not true. People share the good stuff and hide the bad stuff.

So your family is probably no worse than any one elses. You need to keep the focus on yourself and not try to change others. Offer an open door type of help to your parents and brother but make sure you protect yourself too. Decide just what you are comfortable doing or giving and offer that. If they don't want it you have to accept that too.

I'd like to hear more about you. What are you doing now and what are your dreams for the future?
culdesac
culdesac
thanks tigg for hearing me out and trying to help. its the little things like these that gives me hope. i am in grad school and planning on getting a job after school finishes and get a place of my own and move on with my life. that's my only option.
and i know all family have problems of their own and demons to deal with but my family is way too broken and they just don't seem to understand that love is all it takes to make things better. they stay angry at each other and passing on the blame is all they do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It may well be time to realize that "things are what they are", and that 'you' need to move on with 'your' life and happiness. That the rest is simply beyond fixing, and by continueing to try, only makes 'you' more miserable and frustrated. Build 'your own' world now. Build it the way 'you' want 'yours' to be. Allow no one to access it, unless they can agree to abide by 'your' terms. Those who can't//won't...don't get in. You only chase your own tail otherwise. A neverending circle of chaos and misery.