Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
This is going to be a really long story, so sorry.
My dad started going out with his girlfriend a little over a year ago. I didn't know at the time that she is absolutely terrible.
Here are the bad things about her: She is an alcoholic, and she smokes a lot. She's mean to me and my dad. She takes up all of my dad's time. She has to do community service because she was caught DRUNK in public. She acts like a SIX YEAR OLD EVEN THOUGH SHE IS ALMOST FORTY! She throws temper tantrums on the ground like my sister, and she abuses my dad.
I am really mad at her and my dad. He constantly wants to give her more chances, even though she is terrible. He and his girlfriend are on vacation in florida now. I really didn't want them to go, but he decided to go. Also I forgot to mention that my mom lives on the other side of the country, and she doesn't see me that often.
I am really mad and I want my mom to move back and I don't want to live with my dad anymore. He's really being a bad dad now and I don't know what to do.
Thanks for listening and I really am looking forward to what you guys have to say.
My dad started going out with his girlfriend a little over a year ago. I didn't know at the time that she is absolutely terrible.
Here are the bad things about her: She is an alcoholic, and she smokes a lot. She's mean to me and my dad. She takes up all of my dad's time. She has to do community service because she was caught DRUNK in public. She acts like a SIX YEAR OLD EVEN THOUGH SHE IS ALMOST FORTY! She throws temper tantrums on the ground like my sister, and she abuses my dad.
I am really mad at her and my dad. He constantly wants to give her more chances, even though she is terrible. He and his girlfriend are on vacation in florida now. I really didn't want them to go, but he decided to go. Also I forgot to mention that my mom lives on the other side of the country, and she doesn't see me that often.
I am really mad and I want my mom to move back and I don't want to live with my dad anymore. He's really being a bad dad now and I don't know what to do.
Thanks for listening and I really am looking forward to what you guys have to say.
Silver- if you don't live with your mother and your father is away with his GF, then who are you with right now???
I'd tell EVERYTHING you said to your guidance counselor. They can help you, but realize that they may do an investigation and you won't be able to control the outcome...
Why do you live with him and not your mother???
Silver, do what you think is best for yourself. When you are 18, it is between you and each parent. The courts have nothing to do with it.
very best,
--EJ
Deli - I have talked a little bit to them, but they haven't been much help.
EJ - Thank you for the advice. I have about 5 years to go before I go to college.
Thanks so much guys for talking!
In PA, I was told that 14 is the age where they *consider* the child's input, but it's not like whatever the child wants, the child gets... There has to be considerable evidence to support an overturn. And that also means that the one parent would have to go to court to change the existing agreement.
Silver- why were you not with your mom to begin with? Usually, they'd put a daughter with a mom, not to generalize... Any way to use this time with your mother to tell her how you feel? How you want to live with her??? (Why are they on two different sides of the country? That must be really difficult.)
Ah... guidance counselors. Don't get me started. BUT, here's a tip for you. By LAW, if you say that you are having thoughts of suicide, they HAVE to get you into therapy. So... if you pull that card and it gets you to a professional who CAN help you situation, then I say do that. School counselors are more worried about covering their own butts about getting you to the next grade. Sad, but true. But to get REAL help, you need a REAL therapist. I'd tell them you want to use your "Yellow Ribbon" card. Even if you say it. They'll know what that means. Watch the results. Even if you admit a day later that you said that just because you were desperate to get help and you weren't getting any before. Ya gotta look out for number one. Once you get into therapy, tell him/her what you told us on your OP. I bet you'll get more help that way.
Hugs.
My daughter is with me for half the time (split from her dad when she was 1) and you know how many times I had a babysitter for her???
Zero.