Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I am the fifth of six kids. I am currently angry at three of my five siblings. Here are the scenarios:
My older brother is a US Army war veteran. He uses that excuse to be a jerk to people. He recently stiffed a waitress and made her cry. Then he calls me names and insults my weight and I already pretty much entered an eating disorder because of him. As of now, I only eat one meal a day. I guess it's also because of illness and anxiety.
My oldest sister is employed at my job, although we work different times. She works overnight, I work during the day. She gets more respect out of my family despite my job being very hard (she is a liquor manager and I'm a bagger/cashier but the customers are the worst). She talks crap about me to my coworkers, got some of my coworkers to like her better than me, it's just miserable.
Then my younger brother. We're only a year apart. My younger brother used to sit around on his rump all day, smoking pot and playing video games all day long until he met a girl through the game he was playing. She persuaded him to move to Washington state and he did, where through this girl, he managed to improve himself. While I am very proud of him, he got his driver's license, a job, and going to school, he likes to rub his success in the faces of my siblings and I. He has only visited once since he moved and I haven't seen him in two years. He only calls us to tell us he's busy. He posts pictures of his food all the time. He won't talk about anything other than hipster stuff. It gets on my nerves.
Then when he was unemployed and smoking pot, I would lend him money all the time. I bought him a phone before he moved when he broke his old phone and he never paid me back. That was $50. I asked him for $20 and he said no, I'd spend it on stupid things when I needed it for a bill. He used to spend the money I lent him on pot.
I am just so angry and frustrated. I'm sick of everything they put me through!
My older brother is a US Army war veteran. He uses that excuse to be a jerk to people. He recently stiffed a waitress and made her cry. Then he calls me names and insults my weight and I already pretty much entered an eating disorder because of him. As of now, I only eat one meal a day. I guess it's also because of illness and anxiety.
My oldest sister is employed at my job, although we work different times. She works overnight, I work during the day. She gets more respect out of my family despite my job being very hard (she is a liquor manager and I'm a bagger/cashier but the customers are the worst). She talks crap about me to my coworkers, got some of my coworkers to like her better than me, it's just miserable.
Then my younger brother. We're only a year apart. My younger brother used to sit around on his rump all day, smoking pot and playing video games all day long until he met a girl through the game he was playing. She persuaded him to move to Washington state and he did, where through this girl, he managed to improve himself. While I am very proud of him, he got his driver's license, a job, and going to school, he likes to rub his success in the faces of my siblings and I. He has only visited once since he moved and I haven't seen him in two years. He only calls us to tell us he's busy. He posts pictures of his food all the time. He won't talk about anything other than hipster stuff. It gets on my nerves.
Then when he was unemployed and smoking pot, I would lend him money all the time. I bought him a phone before he moved when he broke his old phone and he never paid me back. That was $50. I asked him for $20 and he said no, I'd spend it on stupid things when I needed it for a bill. He used to spend the money I lent him on pot.
I am just so angry and frustrated. I'm sick of everything they put me through!
I would stop worrying about them and stop using them as an excuse. Focus on yourself. If weight is an issue join weight watchers. If you want/need a better job work harder at your job or look for a new job. And work on your relationships with co-workers.
Make your life about you.
Mom died in Feb. my siter emptied her bank account and left $344.00 (she wrote a check to herself for $9,000). then my sister went to the funeral home, stole mom's ashes and made a "shrine" in her livingroom.
my attitude was good riddance.i got a lawyer, sued my sister to be the executor of my mother's estate and the judge ordered her to put back EVERYTHING she stole from the bank and mom's house. I didn't challenge her on the ashes. Didn't want to disrespect mom that way.
I feel so much better. Like i said, no more faking the funk. i now spend family holidays with aunts, uncles, cousins and friends.
The fact that your younger brother bolted and then did so much better sounds like he got the lesson... Whatever's going on in that house, he needed to leave in order to improve himself.
Could you be blaming others for your own misery???
Hipster stuff??? I don't get it.
Do you still live at home?
Are you heavy? You say you have anxiety and sickness... I have a feeling there's more going on than meets the eye.
Hugs.