Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I am going back to my home town. My husband's family has a reunion this weekend. They go visit graves and then have a big family reunion. I am going to go visit my fathers grave. My mother is still alive.She is to be buried next to my father when the time comes. As some of you know my mother and I are estranged.Mother's choice.Due to the fact she is crazy I am okay with it. I feel sad every time I go back to my home town and try not to go very often.Only to my husband's family events. Any one else feel this way? I have worked through this situation and have accepted it. It still sadden me.
I remember one time when I came back from a short type of school for one year, I though that most people who knew me would be happy to see me back home again, most people didn't seem that excited about it, and even the priest whom I used to visit a lot as a child because they needed someone to play with a girl they babysitted responded in a more annoying and sour way towards me. It wasn't a very pleasent "Come Back", also what I noticed is that most of the people who knew me or my family, same as some teachers would ask more for either my older or younger sister, I wasn't the one they wanted to see the most.
Most of all; I never feel as I belong in this place. I do love the landscape, and perhaps some buildings, but I don't love being in this place, I don't fit in with the people, and I have always been very different from how my biological family is... It isn't a place where I long back to, I wouldn't consider it a place where I would like to live.
I sure could do fine with visiting there, but just as a visit. I can understand you have much mixed emotions about this, I think this makes a lot of sense when one goes back to places where you have bad memories. But I am sure it helps having your husband's support and having him by your side when going back to your hometown, I wouldn't like to be going back there without my husband joining me. I even don't like being with my parents alone too much when they visit us, I always feel better when my husband is together with me. But I can understand that it still saddens you.
But back to the main point; Whilst living at this school that was also located very far away from my parents home, I only visited them for 1 whole week of vacation that would be a bit spread around in a year. Once I was back at the school I never missed my family, I loved living on my own and away from them. I simply loved my freedom! And I still feel this same way now.
So I can understand that you enjoy being away from there, there is a certain freedom with this, isn't it? :-) I think it is more up to you if you want to move back there or not, I don't think you should worry about this so much. Just remember that you don't have to move back there, it is more important to be living in a place where you feel happy and where you feel the most comfortable living.