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Just venting

nightkeeper46n2
nightkeeper46n2
I come from a super dysfunctional family. Im the 6th out of 8 kids, 5 boys, 3 girls. anyways, all of my brothers have been to prison. ALL OF THEM. well, recently, one of my brothers paroled out, after 16 yrs. while he was in, my very best friend was his pen pal for awhile; i didnt think to much of it. she and i have been friends for about 10 years, we do practically everything together. she lives in my neighborhood. so now hes home and i dont have a best friend anymore. im having a huge problem with this, and im just wondering, is this normal, or am i being a bitch? she doesnt call anymore, and shes at our house every single day, but not hanging out with me. (we have two houses on our property) im so pissed off, i just cant be around them. i tried and its too akward.what makes it even more awkward, is she has a baby with my younger brother. yah. ill also add, that my younger brother has another baby, with this chick who left him to marry my oldest brother,who went back to prison and then she hooked up with my OTHER BROTHER after he got out a few years ago.... these people are freaking nuts. at least i have my own house and can lock them out! but back to my friend, half of me hates her right now, and a small part of me misses her....any advice?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Find new friends!! It is a shame that good friendships get ignored when one of the friends finds a new love. They seem to want to spend all their free time with the love of their life. That's just the way it is. I'm sorry.

As for all of the relationships and babies in your family, that is a real mess. Your family probably qualifies as a dysfunctional family with no one having true respect for the others. There is no way that I would ever date anyone my sister had dated or vise versa. These women must be mad.

You are right - just stay away from everyone involved and live your own life. Start by finding new friends.
nightkeeper46n2
nightkeeper46n2
thanks for replying! i figured as much, its just harder when your best friend is in love with your brother!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow. What a mess. I second echo the 1st person's advice. I would find new friends, and probably move out of town. Sounds way to crazy and dysfunctional for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My family has a way of putting "fun" in dysfunctional too, so I have an idea of where you are coming from. I would suggest writting her a letter just saying how you feel about what her actions have done to your friendship. Hard as it may be, I would suggest leaving out anything about her having a baby with another brother, and just focus on how her actions have made you feel. If she is a good friend, she will understand your feelings and attempt to make some kind of balance. Love/lust entails strong feelings so dont expect that she is going to quit having an interest in spending time with your brother.
Good luck!
nightkeeper46n2
nightkeeper46n2
thanks everyone! i do have other friends, and i have been doing a lot more with them lately. i feel better, but im still sore about the hole thing. its like my brother came home and she turned into this completely new person. and i think im a bit mad, because we were so excited to get our brother back, and all he does is hang out with her! i guess it all comes down to who is a real friend and who is not. anyways, thanks for the advice!