Family Issues Support Group

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mymorejon917
mymorejon917
I know I have recently posted on my pregnancy, a b/f that seems like he does not want to be home, and my confusion, I just really need someone to talk to as I know I must tell my family soon about this, not knowing if this was going to last, because i have lost two previous pregnancies. I am currently so out of it don't know what to think, and feel like i'm going to be at the end of the road with no money, a 13 year old and a baby in a one bedroom as my bf makes way less than i do at the current moment and struggling to find a position where he wants, and as he wants to make more. I want to plan, but don't know how, i want to tell my family about the baby but at my age in fear of altercations, and judging, in fear that the son i love so dearly will turn on me. Wanting to find somewhere we all fit comfortably but unable to, i have so much bottled in, and in fear of more altercations i'm not sure what to say or do, don't know where to go to talk to someone. I know this might sound like I should grow up, but I've found it hard to get around all this, and don't know where to turn right now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did you tell your bf yet? What does he have to say? It's time he steps up and takes whatever job he can get and grows up some.
mymorejon917
mymorejon917
He knows, and has a job, but is trying to get a better paying job, but is literally struggling, he puts applications out and gets absolutely no call backs, they send him to the computer to apply, but gets no response from that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Is he more responsible? Last time you posted it was about him going out all the time and playing video games.

What are you expecting from your family? I'd say this is something you and your bf need to figure out. Maybe jobs on alternate shifts so you can care for the baby. Maybe moving somewhere that is cheaper to live? Or would you consider giving up the baby for adoption?
mymorejon917
mymorejon917
He is actually more responsible than he has ever been in the past, but when he is actually home his head is faced at the phone playing these games, and i know he is because i do see the games, about the not wanting to be home, it seems even at 7pm that i just got home from work he wants to be somewhere like his sisters, or out walking in a store, or he'll leave from work if he works early to go to his mom's house and won't come back till 11 unless i pick him up, which i can not do all too often, on his day off, he leaves looking for work, ends up at his sisters and gets conned into staying until late hours, like last weekend he was taken to the casino, i guess that's what he was waiting for yesterday, but i ruined his plans by locking myself out. about my family especially my parents, we have never seen eye to eye, i care about them, but they do not like him, and well, i'm worried that it starts arguing all over again and grief , adoption i can't because i have my one, and i see how much i love him and i know in my heart i will always wonder, and i can't live like that, i have considered it. move to a cheaper place would not be a bad idea, i have thought of that, but i can't do that unless there is a job and place in hands first.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm thinking moving your BF away from his family would be a really good thing. He sounds very childish and having them around makes it easy for him to continue to avoid reality. You say he has been better but then describe the same behavior. What really changed?

I would talk to your BF about moving. Together figure out places that might be less expensive and where you can both get jobs. He also needs to understand that he will probably need a second job to help with the additional expenses of a baby.