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is it wrong of me?

TryingToForget
TryingToForget
i haven't talked to my dad in over a year, since i visted him last summer. things were ok untill he got all paranoid and started saying that i was smokeing and i was not alowed to leave the house cus he thought i was going to call some guy to come pick me up. when i tryed to call my brother to come get me cus i was sick of it, he snached the phone away from me and grabed my arm and wouldn't let go. when i broke free of him i ran out the back door and started walking down the street. he followed me in his car yelling at me to get in, but i wouldn't so i ran and hid behind a bush and waited till he left and borrowed some ones phone to call my brother who came and got me. after this i stoped talking to him, is that so wrong that i disabandond him? i mean my parents got divorced when i was 1 and he was never a good father, going 3-4 months between calls. showing up at random times to take us out even if we had plans. he has no idea how to be a father. my other brother lives with him right now, he says every ting is ok, but we know that have been some probs bethween them. my mum thinks i should talk to my dad but to me he is kind of dead, is that so wrong?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know exactly how you feel. My father is not a father at all. He is an idiot. You didn't really do anything wrong. If you would have gotten in the car with him, who knows what would have happend to you. Right now I'm giving my dad one last chance otherwise I am going to stop talking to him. I don't need someone who isn't going to be there and is always negative towards me. You have other family memebers that care for you including your friends. My mother has told me to talk to my dad but we never get anywhere. In a way my dad is kind of dead as well. But I think you should try talking and see how things go. You can't give up without even attempting it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know exactly how you feel. My father is not a father at all. He is an idiot. You didn't really do anything wrong. If you would have gotten in the car with him, who knows what would have happend to you. Right now I'm giving my dad one last chance otherwise I am going to stop talking to him. I don't need someone who isn't going to be there and is always negative towards me. You have other family memebers that care for you including your friends. My mother has told me to talk to my dad but we never get anywhere. In a way my dad is kind of dead as well. But I think you should try talking and see how things go. You can't give up without even attempting it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You never did anything wrong. My parents broke up when I was in third grade, so I saw everyhthing. What I didn't see was how angry and hurtful my father was being. I hadn't talked to him in months. They have to earn your trust. If you can't trust him, don't see him. But he is still human, that has tried. Maybe you should give it some more time to figure things out and how you feel. if you feel he should be in your life, ease your way in. But don't let him control it. If you don't think he should be in your life, don't bother. Don't listen to anyone who says you should go back. You know what is good for you, and makes you happy. Do what you feel is the right thing to do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Obviously your dad's behavior was scareing you and my firs thought would be to leave as well. It must be hard for him only seeing his children sometimes but by the sounds of it he's not really getting the aspect. Assuming things of his daughter, especially when he never sees you sounds extremely unfair. I think it would probably be a good ide to talk to him. You could even send an email if you dont want to talk face to face.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can't miss what you never had. My real dad is not in my life. My dad is a alcoholic. That's the life he wants. I have respect that. He has his life I have mine. Many years have gone by. I am no longer angry. I am at peace with all this. My dad has never been in my life. His more like a stranger related by blood.

You know if it's going to a negative thing for you. Staying away for now is best. I have two kids that I need to protect. YOur safety comes first. Give yourself some to to heal. Best of luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can't miss what you never had. My real dad is not in my life. My dad is a alcoholic. That's the life he wants. I have respect that. He has his life I have mine. Many years have gone by. I am no longer angry. I am at peace with all this. My dad has never been in my life. His more like a stranger related by blood.

You know if it's going to a negative thing for you. Staying away for now is best. I have two kids that I need to protect. YOur safety comes first. Give yourself some to to heal. Best of luck.