Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
i will try and keep this short but get everything in
my mother raised me for the most part alone besides, when she disappeared on me and left me with my grandmother for about a year, i found out she commited herself for attempted suicide, but this was way back in the 1970's anyhow my real father bailed before i hit a year old, my mother started dating my stepdad when i was 4 and they going through a divorce now i am 45 years old, anyhow i was a troubled kid and i did give my mother a hard time when i was a kid, i know i did, it did not improve with the friends that i had and how i was never home or drinking adn sthings, , when i turned 22 mty life changed i straightened up worked full time constantly and unless somethign drastic happened never asked my mom for anything.
i got married 15 years ago, bought a house have a pool 2 kids and a dog, my mother has been great with my kids, she loves them more than life itself, and always took them spoiled them and what not,
she started having problems with my stepfather about 5 years ago, she moved in with me and my family for a year, then moved back in with my stepdad, then seh moved back with me about 2 years ago, and got her own place about 7 months ago. anyhow i never asked my mom for anythign when she lived with me, i mean she is my mother she raised me spoiled my kids and everythign just did not seem right, she would give me money for bills a couple times but thats it,
my wife cheated on me, my daughter has bipolar disorder, my oldest and the stressors of that my mother got her own place. my life has gone on one giant downward spiral in last 8 months, anyhow, i have been struggling financially the house my wife and i bought together i live in and pay for along with all the utilities and my kids are with me 5 days a week, my spouse gives me no money for anything.
yesterday my car broke down, no i did not ask my mother for anything but i have had enough of my bad streak i want to purge all my sins of the past and see if i cant start new, so i sent my mom an email explaining why i was sending it and just apologized to her for how i was as a kid and for the hard time i gave her. she hasnt answered the phoe emialed me back or texted me since.
i told her i dont want any money to help with my car, i told her i am just cleansing myself to try and end this streak of hard times. to look at things in a new light, but nothing. in return any takes as to why
my mother raised me for the most part alone besides, when she disappeared on me and left me with my grandmother for about a year, i found out she commited herself for attempted suicide, but this was way back in the 1970's anyhow my real father bailed before i hit a year old, my mother started dating my stepdad when i was 4 and they going through a divorce now i am 45 years old, anyhow i was a troubled kid and i did give my mother a hard time when i was a kid, i know i did, it did not improve with the friends that i had and how i was never home or drinking adn sthings, , when i turned 22 mty life changed i straightened up worked full time constantly and unless somethign drastic happened never asked my mom for anything.
i got married 15 years ago, bought a house have a pool 2 kids and a dog, my mother has been great with my kids, she loves them more than life itself, and always took them spoiled them and what not,
she started having problems with my stepfather about 5 years ago, she moved in with me and my family for a year, then moved back in with my stepdad, then seh moved back with me about 2 years ago, and got her own place about 7 months ago. anyhow i never asked my mom for anythign when she lived with me, i mean she is my mother she raised me spoiled my kids and everythign just did not seem right, she would give me money for bills a couple times but thats it,
my wife cheated on me, my daughter has bipolar disorder, my oldest and the stressors of that my mother got her own place. my life has gone on one giant downward spiral in last 8 months, anyhow, i have been struggling financially the house my wife and i bought together i live in and pay for along with all the utilities and my kids are with me 5 days a week, my spouse gives me no money for anything.
yesterday my car broke down, no i did not ask my mother for anything but i have had enough of my bad streak i want to purge all my sins of the past and see if i cant start new, so i sent my mom an email explaining why i was sending it and just apologized to her for how i was as a kid and for the hard time i gave her. she hasnt answered the phoe emialed me back or texted me since.
i told her i dont want any money to help with my car, i told her i am just cleansing myself to try and end this streak of hard times. to look at things in a new light, but nothing. in return any takes as to why
Secondly, if you wrote in your email of your financial problems along with apologies for your past mistakes towards her she may have taken it as an apology however, I need your financial assistance. If she's helped financially in the past and lavished gifts onto your children she's probably feeling she's contributed enough.
I would want to talk to her in person and I think the apology for past mistakes should have been said to her in person; without any other information about cleansing the soul or burdens of financial stress. mixed in with the apology.
Give her some time and don't contact her; let her contact you.
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2. Maybe she didn't know how to respond, so she's waiting.
It was only yesterday. Give it some time.
It's good to purge things, but it's almost a bit of magical thinking to hope that in sending her that email, your life will improve. I wish the best for you, but an email will not make the difference, so don't stress yourself out too much about it. Better energy will be spent on other issues right now.
Best of luck.