Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
I've wanted to be an only child for quite some time. I'm the youngest of four children and so unlike my siblings it's unbelievable. Oh I look like them, but emotionally psychologically politically ethically morally we're nothing alike.
And you know it's not like I'm a bad person. I've never been in jail, never hurt anyone, never killed or mained small animals children or even pulled the wings off flies. By anyone elses standards I'm a pretty amazing woman who's self supporting, owns her own home and car, manages to help out in the community, cares about what goes on in the world and even takes in the occasional stray. But I'm politically liberal, and religiously Pagan. And my siblings are even further to the right than I am to the left and they're Christian. I've never been particularly in your face about who I am with them because I know they don't approve of my beliefs and POV. I've underpeddled everything to keep from offending them for pretty much my entire life. I nod and smile a lot in their presence.
Over the past two days one of my sisters had repeatedly berated me on my facebook page in front of a few dozen horrified friends and told me I'm myopic, selfish, unreasonable, stupid, careless, immature, self centered, inconsiderate and hopeless. Those were some of her exact words. Obviously unconditional love was not practiced in my family of origin. All because I posted a political link on MY facebook page that she didn't care for. It was literally just this vicious diatribe of nastiness that left even me speechless and I've known the woman for 47 years. She claims the whole family feels this way about me. So according to her they all hate me. Who says the internet is bring people closer together? Social networking my ass.
This last go around has to be the last. I can't do this anymore. I can't not be who I am. That's not an option. And judging from her stream of nastyness she doesn't like me. She simply doesn't like me. Actually, I believe she hates me. Yeah, my biggest mistake was approving her Facebook friend request; I see that now. But I mean really I had no idea the depths of her hatred towards me becuase of my beliefs. And yet all I've ever really wanted was to be friends with my siblings.
Do I just walk away and pretend I'm an only child from now on? Do I try and maintain a relationship with someone who appears to hate me and everything I am? It's breaking my heart and I can't stop crying. What is the point to a relationship with someone who so deeply dislikes me?
And you know it's not like I'm a bad person. I've never been in jail, never hurt anyone, never killed or mained small animals children or even pulled the wings off flies. By anyone elses standards I'm a pretty amazing woman who's self supporting, owns her own home and car, manages to help out in the community, cares about what goes on in the world and even takes in the occasional stray. But I'm politically liberal, and religiously Pagan. And my siblings are even further to the right than I am to the left and they're Christian. I've never been particularly in your face about who I am with them because I know they don't approve of my beliefs and POV. I've underpeddled everything to keep from offending them for pretty much my entire life. I nod and smile a lot in their presence.
Over the past two days one of my sisters had repeatedly berated me on my facebook page in front of a few dozen horrified friends and told me I'm myopic, selfish, unreasonable, stupid, careless, immature, self centered, inconsiderate and hopeless. Those were some of her exact words. Obviously unconditional love was not practiced in my family of origin. All because I posted a political link on MY facebook page that she didn't care for. It was literally just this vicious diatribe of nastiness that left even me speechless and I've known the woman for 47 years. She claims the whole family feels this way about me. So according to her they all hate me. Who says the internet is bring people closer together? Social networking my ass.
This last go around has to be the last. I can't do this anymore. I can't not be who I am. That's not an option. And judging from her stream of nastyness she doesn't like me. She simply doesn't like me. Actually, I believe she hates me. Yeah, my biggest mistake was approving her Facebook friend request; I see that now. But I mean really I had no idea the depths of her hatred towards me becuase of my beliefs. And yet all I've ever really wanted was to be friends with my siblings.
Do I just walk away and pretend I'm an only child from now on? Do I try and maintain a relationship with someone who appears to hate me and everything I am? It's breaking my heart and I can't stop crying. What is the point to a relationship with someone who so deeply dislikes me?
I just could not accept that she felt this way. I had always tried to be a good friend to her!
It's been nearly a year now since we have spoken and i have given up trying to mend things, I am 60 years old and i am not prepared to just change my ways just to please my sister and the rest of my family for that matter.
You need to block her on facebook and stop trying to please everyone at your expense. hug from me Juney
I also realized that I would never continue to have a relationship with someone who talked to me like that. I've made excuses for her behavior for 47 years but I would never even once have taken abuse like that from someone else. So it stops. Thank you for listening.
Your sister needs to be blocked from your Facebook immediately. What she wrote on your Facebook page is abuse and harrassment. It was meant to hurt and embarrass you. How cruel people can be - yet she claims to be a Christian. I, too, am a Christian and I would never hurt anyone like she has hurt you. Next time she tells you that she hates you and so does the rest of the family, use this - Christians are taught to love one another (even their enemies). Christians also know that they are not to judge others (that is God's job, and He does a darn good job of it - he doesn't need our help). To claim to be a Christian is to live a Christian life, and she is not a good example. Also, who gave her the authority to speak for the other family members.
Don't waste your time crying over people who aren't worth it. You are important and I'm
sure there are thousands of people who love you compared to one sibling who is an embarrassment to all Christians in this world. Hold your head high and walk with pride.