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wolfdreamer2013
wolfdreamer2013
I am a an aunt to several nieces and nephews and great.Some I am so close to they are like my own children.I feel I am blessed to have been able to have a close relatiosnship with a majority of my nieces and nephews and great.I was never able to have a child of my own so with ttrying to cope with not being able to be a mother I became closer to my siblings children.I am the youngest in my family.So some of my siblings kids are very close to my age.My brother had several children and a set of twins at the age of 18.The marriage to his first wife did not work out and the mother of the twins ended up with the two children.I was basically around the twins for the first year of their life then did not seem them again until they were older.My neice and nephew had a rough life and were raised without really knowing me or any my family.My family was pushed completely out of their lives.The twins were adopted out due to no one was taking care of them.After they became adults I reached out to chris and crystal the twins again.Chris and I were trying to build a relationship when he became ill with aids and ended his life.I was devastated to lose my nephew Chris who I felt I spent most of my life trying to find.Crystal was adopted by another couple and had lived out of stateUntil she became a adult,.After we loss my nephew Chris I tried reaching out to Crystal and she has shut me down so many times cause of the anger towards my brother /her father and what she was raised to beleive from her mother that we did not love or care for her or Chris.I just tried contacting Crystal again and she lashed out out at me over my brother again.Am I wrong to just let go? Or should I have given her time?Chris has been gone for 13 yrs and Crystal lives no more then 45 mins from me and has never tried to see me or asked to talk to me.I feel I have tried and she is not willing to make the effort so I choose to let her go.I am sad over this but do not know what else to do.She wont get past the anger towards her dad in order to give me a chance.Sorry this is long just needed to get it off my chest.Hugs.Jerrie
deleted_user
deleted_user
We can't make people feel differently. I would send her a card saying you will always be there if she needs you. Then let it go. This is her problem to work through...or not.
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
I think you are putting your own desires above respecting hers.

It sounds like she does not have any desire to know her bio-aunt at this time.

You need to respect her wishes.
annieheart
annieheart
You reached out to her. Now you have to respect her wishes. Maybe she can not handle a relationship right now, for what ever reason. The next move is up to her.
rosykitten
rosykitten
I have a niece and she doesn't know me. My sister and I don't talk at all. I know you care about your niece, but there is nothing you can do. Life is short, no need to dwell on that. If she wants you around in her life, she will come to you. If not, oh well. Try to push this aside and live your life
pd2012
pd2012
My condolences on the loss of your nephew. I think your niece has made it clear that she would prefer not to have contact with her biological family so I would leave it at that.
wolfdreamer2013
wolfdreamer2013
I basically said goodbye to my niece and wish her the best.She had written me and said she has forgiven her dad/my brother for the hurt he had caused her and she was able to move on but did not wish to try and get to know her dad as an adult.I agree if she had wanted to have a realtionship with me she would of tried to get in touch with me.And so I did not respond to the last time she wrote me I feel she wishes to remain distant cause of fear of being hurt and I respect her wish to be left alone.I agree I need to move on and live my life for me.Thanks to everyone who responded.Hugs.Jerrie
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