Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Today is my husband's birthday. Yes he had mentioned wanting to be "woken up" this morning, but he was up and down all night because he couldn't breathe (sinus crap). So instead of waking him up I said to myself I would just give him what he wanted tonight instead of this morning, not to mention we have 3 kids who I have to get up with EVERY morning (while he sleeps) but whole nother story! So we get to a school function for our son and he was like "why did I not get my wake up call this morning" I knew what he was talking about but I just looked at him bc we are in my son's classroom I was not about to start arguing or even talk about our bedroom life in that classroom!! So when we left I had to go back to work and so did he, so I texted him this:
"Yet again its obvious I have disappointed you again...I knew you were up and down all night so I let you sleep! I'm sorry I truly didn't do it intentionally and never wanted/meant to upset you!! I truly am sorry and had every intention of "Having you to myself tonight" I love you and I'm sorry!"
He texts me "call me" ( I work in a small office, anything I say will be heard by my co-workers), but I called and was like hello, he said I got your text, I said ok....he said why did you act like you had no clue what I was talking about in the classroom, but then you send me a text...I said I knew what you were referring to, but I wasn't going to get into there.....he set there, I said I am in the office I can't really talk. He says Ya know what I guess we can talk later and hung up!!
I don't get it, yes I know he's a man and wants sex, but you know life isn't all about that!! He ALWAYS complains he doesn't get it enough and wants to argue about it....He claims I am not an affectionate person, and I will admit I DO NOT WANT TO BE FONDLED ALL THE TIME.....I like to cuddle and all, but he thinks has to fondle me anytime we are next to each other and it gets really old!! IDK....I am more venting than anything, but if anyone has input feel free to post!!
Thanks.
"Yet again its obvious I have disappointed you again...I knew you were up and down all night so I let you sleep! I'm sorry I truly didn't do it intentionally and never wanted/meant to upset you!! I truly am sorry and had every intention of "Having you to myself tonight" I love you and I'm sorry!"
He texts me "call me" ( I work in a small office, anything I say will be heard by my co-workers), but I called and was like hello, he said I got your text, I said ok....he said why did you act like you had no clue what I was talking about in the classroom, but then you send me a text...I said I knew what you were referring to, but I wasn't going to get into there.....he set there, I said I am in the office I can't really talk. He says Ya know what I guess we can talk later and hung up!!
I don't get it, yes I know he's a man and wants sex, but you know life isn't all about that!! He ALWAYS complains he doesn't get it enough and wants to argue about it....He claims I am not an affectionate person, and I will admit I DO NOT WANT TO BE FONDLED ALL THE TIME.....I like to cuddle and all, but he thinks has to fondle me anytime we are next to each other and it gets really old!! IDK....I am more venting than anything, but if anyone has input feel free to post!!
Thanks.
Just see how he feels tonight and go with the flow. I know how you feel about being chased around the house. There was a time I couldn't do the laundry without being grabbed. We're a bit older now and more understanding of who feels like it when.
I feel for you though; those poor guys and their hurt feelings over the smallest of slights.
PD I remember those days of being chased around and loving it. But that was years ago when there were no kids and fewer responsibilities. Somehow my husband seems to think I exist for his pleasure. And of course he falls asleep after which leaves me rushing around to get caught up. I wonder if he will ever realize that if he were more helpful to me I would be in the mood more often?? Wishful thinking....
There is an ailment about this and I have put an article on it below. My husband and I are divorced.
http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2011/07/16/my-husband-constantly-gropes-me
oh, then don't forget, homework, paying bills, baths, dinner and getting them into bed. GEEZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Going, you'll be fine; these things happen in a marriage; sometimes the plans just don't work out... I can remember one night that all three of our kids came down with the chicken pox. I was running ALL DAY with them; DH comes home from work, eats dinner, relaxes while I'm still trying to get the kids comfy and in bed and THEN when I finally get them settled, he wants sex? Seriously????? GET AWAY from me!!!!!!!!!!!! lol I can laugh now over that but it wasn't funny when it happened.
You see Going, we've been through it! There's many more times for you to have a super great night or morning and then other times, not such a good time...
Our problem was a lack of communication and understanding plus I wasn't feeling overly great in the self-esteem department. We work on it; argue sometimes, talk more. In all honesty, he feels he is getting older and loves me to death and wants the sex to be like it was. We compromise; well, sort of, haha! I know women who have been the ones with the needs. Marriage is ups and downs; about the timing and place of his question? Yep, sometimes men can be clueless on waiting for an appropriate time and place for discussions. You will work it out. Know you are not alone and it can get better through honest discussions with your husband.