I don't know if something is missing but i don't want you out there feeling ignored! I homeschooled my twins at that age and gain had to do the remote learning thing for months. we had so many bad days due to my emotional stress and their confrontational attitudes. i just melted into an inconsolable puddle them slammed myself for not being the adult, but i could only take so much. I am just saying that is how i felt. We had good days sometimes, too, but i was unhinged at times. I hope you are taking very deep breaths if only for a personal time out. Hugs....

Can you contact a child therapist or get books and information on the Internet
on ideas for handling your younger kids? And maybe pull back just a bit from spending so much time on their school work. Find an online group of mothers homeschooling their kids for support and advice.

thank you and yes Dorki i feel like that most days some days are okay but its just super tough right now or at least i feel like its getting progressively worse and yes right now i am only listening to prayers on you tube playing out loud in the house and i am just sitting here regaining some peace thank you. and TIRED we have a family therapist but hes way in another city most of our days are virtual in which i have found not to be so so helpful and you are right i will try and pull back on the school work stuff theres been lots to do going thru a charter school and in between 4 kiddos it literally has taken most of the day.. i dont mind actually being their best advocate and have found myself loving teaching them but not this much where i have time for nothing else in life. And i will take advantage of the online groups for homeschooling bc i dont spend a lot of time on social media rarely i sign up but never really engage but i will today as i have also found the strength and time to write this post on daily strength thank you both

What I hear in your post is that everyone in the family is unhappy. You are unhappy and the kids are unhappy. So as the parent, you have to be the one to make changes. I would ask them if they want to go back to regular school or continue to homeschool. If they want to continue to homeschool, then you set up a routine that is much different than now. If they want to go back to school, then you need to let them drive that train even if you don't like it. Because they are showing you how unhappy they are. And you are unhappy. It sounds like they are being rude and saying ugly things because they are unhappy. Your job as parent is not to control everything in their lives nor to make them happy. But when our kids tell us what is going on in their souls by their anger, yelling, calling names, and cursing, we as parents have to do something to create change. So they can thrive and we can thrive. Something is really wrong and I think you know it but might be so tired and stressed that thinking clearly isn't happening. If any of these kids have a mental illness or special needs, then this is a consideration that doing it alone is not the answer. Whether you hire a tutor to come in daily to help or they go back to school, just making a positive change can help.

There are many groups and Facebook pages for parents of homeschoolers. Seek guidance from them. Find books at the library or on Amazon about organizing your day. I think you may be doing too much with each as an individual. You like teaching which is good but you may be doing the work, when they have to be allowed to do it alone. I have know parents who homeschool several children and they did not take all day like this and their kids were HAPPY. Not saying you are wrong or doing it wrong, I just think you have to cut yourself some slack. You as the teacher also have to make time each day for you as the human being. It is tiring and this is how being less hands on may help. The kids also need to learn independence and doing some of the work themselves with your guidance can be very helpful to them. Have them all doing their schoolwork at the same time of day. You help them individually in small spurts like a teacher in a public school would do. You get them started and they finish. Homeschooling parents do not do all the work and 100% attention for all the school tasks from what I remember. Don't burn yourself out. They need a happy and emotionally healthy mom. What I remember of my homeschooling friends is they did from say 8-12 noon was school and the kids were just expected to all sit and do their work with mom's guidance and they were finished by noon. These were kids that were super smart and went on to early college. They did classes with homeschooling groups also, like chemistry or harder high school topics. Good luck to you, there has got to be a way that everyone's needs get met and you are not hovering and burning yourself out.

Yikes! Sounds like you are overwhelmed and overworked. Is there a significant other or husband around? Homeschooling is a teamwork kind of endeavor, especially with 4 of them schooling. That's tough. We homeschooled our two children from middle school through high school. It is not for the faint at heart! It's tough!! Rewarding, but tough.

It sounds like you are doing BEYOND your part in keeping all the balls in the air with your children, but it sounds like you are letting them disrespect you and your schooling environment, which would NOT be allowed even in public school. Perhaps you can set up some ground rules for the home and school. List them out for everyone to see. Things like: No swearing, No disrespectful behaviors towards each other or you, Give your very best efforts etc... Post them in a common place for all to see and have consequences attached to each infraction. My kids were made to write sentences for a punishment, it worked great because they got to work on penmanship as well as sit and write the same sentence over and over again for 50 or 25 times which really made them think twice about doing whatever they did wrong again. A sample sentence might be, "I will not use swear words." " I will give respect at all times." Trust me, it works!
Good luck Momma, what you are doing is HARD, don't make it any harder on yourself by overdoing the grading or checking up. Make them check their own work before turning in. Homeschooling is all about discipline and raising kids to be "mini-adults", so invest in them the responsibilities for their own quality control over their own work or redo it. Exhausting yourself will only be bad for all of you, a dry well cannot still pull water when you have nothing to give. Give yourself a break. Get organized and get solid on communicating the non-negotiables and enlist help from your husband. My husband used to work all day and then come home to address any issues we met during the day in discipline. It works best to be a team.