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Husband Unreasonable

Edger
Edger
I placed a order on amazon for a book. It showed up on his computer a second later. He wants to know if it is visa charge or gift card charge . I tell him i don't know I just placed order. He is upset explaining to me that he needs to know. I say i just placed order. You didnt even give me two seconds. He says i don't care. I need to know.

Barbara
jeneiram
jeneiram
Hi Barbara,

You can log in to your amazon account and see how you paid. Your husband may need to know how you paid due to keeping the budget in order or something. A gift card purchase wouldn't affect your credit card statement, for example, so that may be why he needs to know.

If you don't remember how to log on to amazon, or something prevents you from doing that for some reason, you can also log on to your visa account online to see if a payment went through. That may take a few days thought because some sellers on amazon don't process the payment until they are ready to ship, which could take a few business days sometimes. So that can be frustrating, as you have to keep checking back.

((hugs))
jen
Edger
Edger
I had to go out and didn't get to finish my discussion. The order was an advance order. The book wasnt comming out for a few weeks. Haven't placed that kind of order in several years. Couldn't rember how that works. Plus I didn't have a chance to go to order page to see or print order out. Litterally , right after I ordered the book, husband asking how book was paid. He seems obsesed with knowing account info as soon as possible. At least to me. He said I was making mountain out of molehill. I was angry cause i couldnt answer his question untill i had a bit of time. And he didnt care that i didnt have time to get him the answer. He just kept saying how important it was to know every visa expence as it happened. So he can keep track.

Was I unreasonabls to get angry or was he unreasonable.

Barbara
jeneiram
jeneiram
It's hard to say really... but it sounds like maybe both of you could maybe ease up on each other?

Maybe you could try talking to him and letting him know that you would appreciate a little more patience and understanding on his part, and in return you will try to be better about being aware and letting him know details when you use the CC?

With CC and ID theft so prevalent these days, it really is important to make sure that you account for and keep track of each time you use a card or an account. That way when something shows up that you know you didn't do, you can report it immediately and have it corrected. Even going one day can really wreck things up if you're not aware. That happened to one of my GF's. Her CC info was stolen and she wasn't paying attention. It was a HUGE mess for her. Anyway, so your husband might be trying to stay right on top of things, which is actually a very wise thing to do.

I wish my husband were as "on the ball" as that. :) I'm the one who has to watch all of that and keep up with all the budget and finances in our home and relationship, and it feels a lot of work sometimes. If I were you I would be so grateful to have a husband concerned about things like that. :)