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how to walk when you love and fear???

mymorejon917
mymorejon917
I know I was making a mistake when I let him back in my life. He was working hard, being responsible, helping even when I was sick. Now he quit the only place that would take him, and is not out finding work. I lost my place mostly because of him, had to come to my parents with my 6 month old, where he was not welcome. Inspite of it all I can't breathe or speak how I feel, he'll yell call me names, tell me he got me a car when clearly it came from my pocket, he paid a few times. Now he's at his sisters where I'm being told I separated us, and it was wrong, that I need to get away from my mom's clutch, that I should have gone to a motel with my daughter, that I should get a place so we could be together if I love him, and want for him to dig me deeper in a hole. I don't want to get evicted because he won't find work, and his sister wants to kick him back out, he says I took his daughter, and threatens me the that he's going to take her, and I think he would because he's done it before. Help I'm too old for this what is wrong with me????
brockblackdotcom
brockblackdotcom
I know you don't want to hear this, but you have got to start planning a way to end this relationship now! Otherwise the next 10 years will go by and I guarantee you that you'll be feeling just as bad if not worse.

We get attached to people and situations... that is normal, just know that once you split after sometime (it may take awhile), you'll be thanking yourself. If he takes your daughter, call the law... Make a strategic plan that keeps him away from her, just do your best... I believe in you, you can find the inner strength.
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
Congrats that you didn't let him back!

The two words "love" and "fear" do NOT belong together in the same sentence.

Join the codep board because his issues are NOT your issues.
epicjourney
epicjourney
Stay strong. You are doing the right thing. The problem is that you love him, but you should not allow that to ruin your life and the life of your child. Get away from him and good things will happen for you and your baby.

best of luck to you and your child,
--EJ
pd2012
pd2012
He can't take any child away from you if he doesn't have a long work history of being financially stable. I think you're doing the right thing and not letting him back in your life.

His sister is only angry that she has him as a problem and it's not you. You didn't do anything wrong here. You made a decision for what's in yours and your baby's best interest. Good for you!
hildas
hildas
Be strong and go forth. You will find the best thinks and people for you.
Triciaclarke
Triciaclarke
Now that you have a child, your first responsibility is to your child, not keeping a disruptive and divisive immature man happy. He wont change, I know someone just like that and he is a lot older and still the same as he was when he was a boy. There is nothing wrong with you, you can see the situation very clearly and you know what you need to do. You know its totally wrong for him to treat you this way, and what guarantee have you that your daughter is safe anywhere near him, none. Stay away, build your own life and you wont look back in the future at a lot of sad wasted years. Be strong and protect your precious daughter.
wep
wep
I would not want to say "hello" to someone who belittles me often by calling me names and just making me feel like a small person so they can feel powerful. He can't keep a job because of his personality. You and your baby deserve better.