Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
In 2005 , my husband was injured on his job. We lent his brother 180k. After my husband won the settlement. five years past. And then my husband suddenly died of cancer and on his dying bed his brother promised to pay the loan back in order for me and my sons to keep our house and have financial stability. I have begged and pleaded with him to pay any part of the loan to help me keep my house and have the security make it on my own. He keeps promising the money is coming. And then finally told me he had no financial obligation to pay the money back, but he did have a moral obligation to his brother. I'm speechless. I do not know how to respond to his cruel words. My husband passed away on February 19, 2013. That is three days from now. I know my brother-in-law will send me an email letting me know how he's thinking of his brother, wondering how were doing . Even though we both know he doesn't care. I would like to make one last attempt to ask them for the money. I feel foolish, desperate and at his mercy when I have to ask him and his replies are always as if I'm asking for a loan from him.. They live in a $2 million home 5 miles from us. I know I have no choice legally he is a lawyer and has set the promissory letter to be so vague. I was told it won't hold up in court. And that he would just drag through system. Want to just remind him of the promise he made to his brother on his dying bed. I don't know how. I would really appreciate any suggestions anyone might have on how I could appeal to his heart and love for his brother. Threats and anger will get me nowhere with him. Thank you for listening.
Maybe he's overconfident in his attorney status.
I'd document everything you know to be true and send an email to him and see how he acknowledges it. He may not be expecting you to use it against him, so give him some rope. Start off gentle and get him caught up in little details that showing him admitting certain things.
If he lives in a 2 m home and makes any money off the sale, it can go be forced to be put on the market, I'd think...
Best of luck.
When it comes to money in the family, there often is no loyalty or appeals to the heart. A promise to pay back is just that, a verbal agreement. Something that can be argued in court that the monies were a gift of sorts.
I'm not an attorney so you should seek out the advice of someone that can advise you of the best legal recourse. He as an attorney can draw up anything he likes but don't sign it without legal representation yourself. I think you've given him enough time to pay back. He'll drag this out forever unless you get him in court.
At the very least, you can tell a lawyer the basics of your agreement and see what your options are.
best of luck
--EJ