I am really sorry that your family balance is not going well. I guess you have tried speaking to him and asking him to stop his shit, but of course it carries on. I have a 19 yr old step son who I am always very proud of. I am so sorry that you have to resort to kicking out your son because he can not figure out his life or who he is.
Good luck and hope things turn out better for him.

Calling the police would do no good,anyway.Your children have rights.You need to evict him from your home the same way you would someone who reants a place and does not pay their rent.All I can sugest is help set him up in renting a room somewhere and If he fails and comes around with a sob story dont let him in.Sink or swim aditude tell him.Tuff love.Do not sighn for an apartment because you will be responsable.At leat renting a room its a monthly basis.I would try and leave him stay home but dont give into him,dont make life easy for him.Let him be held responsable for his care,his wah,his meals.If he is not working he needs to pay his way some how.Dont avoid conflict because its easier.I wish you well,its still not to late to teach him reasponsability!!Oh my daughter works at wawa and has her own place for about a year and a half now.She puts in a lot of hours to make it,She is 23.

I was a 19 yr old single mom with a 2 yr old and my mom gave me tough love. U need to do this for ur sons sake. I was soooo angry at my mom at first for not wanting to help me by taking us in, now I thank her for it. And out of her 4 kids, me being the baby, she has now began the same thing with the others as she seen how much it pays off no matter how it broke her heart to do it. It will hurt u to do it, but I put money on it that he will thank u in years to come as he will have and wil learn to stand on his own. As an adult, give him a deadline, he aint out come the deadline, pack his thingsl change the locks...call them locks of love he will get it one day.

Good luck with this. I have a 14 year old son who is extremely mouthy, extremely lazy. This is a worry of mine, that he will be 19, 20, 21, and doing nothing with his life, living in my home eating everything in site and not doing anything but wanting to play video games. I went to a whole slew of parenting classes, but the one that works is "Love & Logic Learning." it is about the fact that you can't control him. You can only control you. So when my son says he is not going to clean up his room, or he is not going to do his homework, or he is not going to clean his bathroom I make a consequence. I have turned off the electricity in his room via the circuit breaker. I pay the electricity. I make him PBJ for dinner and make sure I make myself a large juicy steak. He says "I don't feel like doing my chores." Well I don't feel like making him a steak dinner! I have taken the power cord to his Xbox or the controllers. He can't play the video games without them.

I would say: You have 6 months to save up your money and find a place to stay. If you would like some help on coming up with a budget or searching for an apartment, let me know.

does he pay rent? say something like, "We could use the barter system and you could earn your keep. that dinner will cost you $5." I know this sounds mean, but he has to start being responsible for himself. Trust me, this is easier said than done. I threaten but my son is 14, so I don't know what I am going to do when he is 19, 20, 21 and now I have to actually follow through.

Good luck!

sorry you are going through this as the kid who was thrown out i can say it was the best thign that ever happened to me. and my relationship with my parents.

in my situation i had no where to go, i had to figure that out, and i did, and not until i stood on my own two feet did i realize what i was doing at home. that was 25 years ago, and i have come along way and i feel better about myself for it honestly if he is being that much of a problem, weigh this out, is it worth him being mad at you, cause he will be. if the answer is yes, sit him down with you and your husband decide on a time. adn a date, and tell him its time to leave on that day, keep a stiff upper lip and follow through with it makeing him leave,

Verry good Kahlua!I had to do somethings like that with my oldest.He now is a sweetheart(28,now).Our job is not to make them happy with us but to be able to stand on their own.When my kids were small and said I was mean,my reply being mean is part of being a mom.

True! i am not his friend. I am his mother. I tell my son that all the time too. My job is to make sure he can take care of himself and I take my job very seriously! Ha Ha!

I left to go to college when I was 18, and never really went back home. My sister left when she was 16! She still graduated from HS with honors. We had a single mom with 4 kids. I was the oldest. My Mom was the queen of tough love, and I love her to this day for it. She raised 4 very hard working "kids." My brothers left and came back home several times. But we all learned to stand on our own 2 feet.

Good luck!