You need to talk to your teacher or guidance counselor today. Your school has resources to help you.

The key is finding an adult who you can talk to. The internet is not the place to sort out something like this.

If I tell a counselor my mom will be contacted and then she'll get in trouble then ill get in trouble and she will yell at me. She has hurt me so much. She's hit me with stuff before and put me down a lot. This stuff has gotten so bad. Including other stuff I've been dealing with has made me depressed.

Violet, do you belong to any church? If you do, then you should give them a visit and talk to a priest. These conversations are always confidential but perhaps he could advise you of what your next steps should be? If you don't belong to one, then simply choose one.

We can only advise you but ultimately it will be up to you to decide what you need to do for your future benefit. Your mother, from what you say here has some anger issues that she needs some help with.

There is nothing wrong with speaking to your guidance counselor at school. He/She is there to help you, not hurt you. If you talk to that person about all your fears, I'm sure there will be steps taken to protect you.

Keep us posted please; you sound like a very intelligent and thoughtful person. Also, keep in mind that most children can be a bit mean to each other; they're just children; and what matters most is what You think of Yourself.

Hugs,
PD

The school has professionals who know how to handle situations like yours. Depending on what is going on they will help you find the right solution.

Don't be afraid to confront this problem. Your mom has problems and is taking them out on you. That is not right. Please get some help. If you don't trust the people at your school a church is a good choice.

I have decided when I graduate I will because then ill be moved out and she can't tell me what to do then.

Its so hard being the family dumping ground for all their bad feelings. I hope this is not what role you play for them. Just look forward to the day when you can be independent and vow never to treat your own children the same way. Look for ways to grow spiritually and emotionally and leave this stuff behind Good luck and good health.

Thank you. And that is how I feel sometimes. Like they come and gripe at me because of all their problems. It is so unfair. And I am the oldest so that's another reason I get griped at so much.

Hi violet,

I believe that your idea to graduate and liberate from your family issues is a good idea, smart attitude you have. Perhaps you may use this time to gather useful ideas and come up with a safe and sure master plan for retreat. At the present, no matter how much pressure follows your course, you must plan to retreat. It is just too difficult for you to continue living the part of a doormat. Please don't abandon your idea and look forward to rejoicing the time of your departure. I hope for a godly light to guide you to emotional safety zones.

Ambi

Thank you. That means a lot. I got in trouble last night for putting a coat on b4 I helped my mom. She told me to go away and ill eat last.

Hi violet and thank you for coming back in to update.

Clever you to just pick that darn coat up, put it on her back, take her nasty comment and keep planning for that get away. She really needs sympathy and simply because she is still a mother. At some point, it is hopeful that she will see the damage she has done to your feelings, and then she may repent and see the light of forgiveness and understand. This idea you can store away within that tool box, the get away box, you know?

Ambi

Yeah. I got trouble yesterday too. That's all I ever get is in trouble. I hate it