Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Edger
The day before yesterday I told mom I didn't need her to call me. After she said she would call me the next day. She calles ever other day. And thers always a problem. Shes usually not feeling good. Various things. She is 89 years old and still lives in her home.
I'm waiting to see if she calls me today. She wont answer the phone. Long story. I mailed heati g pad to her. It was delivered. Someone might steal it from porch. She has small version. I'm sort of tence waiting to see if she calls so I can find out if she got the pad or tell her to have brother look outside. It was delivered. He wont help much. He is selfish. And he wont anser phone eighter. Different reason from mom.
Also, mom complained about perscription doctor gave her. Liquid to rub on body for pain. Cost one thousand dollars. She cant get doctor office staff to ask doctor to give her other perscription between patients. He has to call her back. But she says she cant get call backs. Because she won't answer the phone. And doctor is with patients every time she calls. I toldmom that it more stressfull for me if shetells me all her problems. Especially since she wont take my suggestions or pay for help in the home for herrself. Now, I'm wondering if she got through to the doctor.
Barbara
I'm waiting to see if she calls me today. She wont answer the phone. Long story. I mailed heati g pad to her. It was delivered. Someone might steal it from porch. She has small version. I'm sort of tence waiting to see if she calls so I can find out if she got the pad or tell her to have brother look outside. It was delivered. He wont help much. He is selfish. And he wont anser phone eighter. Different reason from mom.
Also, mom complained about perscription doctor gave her. Liquid to rub on body for pain. Cost one thousand dollars. She cant get doctor office staff to ask doctor to give her other perscription between patients. He has to call her back. But she says she cant get call backs. Because she won't answer the phone. And doctor is with patients every time she calls. I toldmom that it more stressfull for me if shetells me all her problems. Especially since she wont take my suggestions or pay for help in the home for herrself. Now, I'm wondering if she got through to the doctor.
Barbara
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I noticed you already posted something about this topic...
I'd suggest stop sending her stuff. You are just adding to your stress. If the brother or she can't even get to the door to get your gifts, you need to cut back.
Same with the phone calls. Did you read my suggestion on your other post?
Mom does tell me here worst problems first. And telling her Im leaving will only make her call later or the next day. And Il will be wondering whats wrong now. And be nervice. Its not like most of her problems or not feeling good are triveal. She has serious problems more than minor ones.
I'd start by just taking the first step by gaining your control again. They may not like it, but they'll learn to get used to it.
Your brother needs to start being accountable- personality disorder or not. It's no excuse.
At this point in life most parents need some help and it's hard to be a caregiver... It does change our lives as well
I was a caregiver for my parents the last 6 years of their lives and it messed me up... It's strange to reverse roles and often painful... Big hug....xo