Maybe stop bullying your wife? IDK but it seems that they are put off by your behavior and I'm confused about why you would leave your own home as opposed to throwing him out. Is it actually your house or her house?

gutted, how do you go from bickering to bullying? sounds like mommy's boy can't or won't make his own but has been bullying the poster

refurb, I think that guys are really sensitive to men who are inappropriate towards their mothers.

Have you ever heard of a man going off on a step day his mother was having a disagreement with her new husband and it wasn't because the husband kind of crossed the line.

Men sometimes see things as bickering, but they are larger, usually more verbally aggressive and can edge into bullying without realizing it.

The other adults in the family are giving him the cold shoulder and the son literally bellied him away from his ?

Sounds like the bickering edged into bulling to me. I wasn't trying to be rude, just putting the pieces of the puzzle together.

You and your wife need to resolve this between the two of you, and if you have to hire an attorney to have her son and family evicted, you need to do so or you're going to lose your house. My husband and I have a good marriage, but we bicker about the stupidest things as do most couples who've been together for any length of time. We realize we do and are working on it, but it's a fact of life in most marriages.

Unless you were a threat to his mother he has no business at all in your marriage IMHO

I'd put them out.... He was trying to intimidate you using his bulk.... Not cool and bullying behaviour......

This is your home and they can get 'their' home

gutted, you could be wrong
not all men are as you seem to presume

what kind of "man" decides to bring his wife along to squat in his stepfather's house?

all couples need a way to vent with each other in a style that works for them, although i wouldn't choose it to be via bickering over petty stuff, some happy couples do,
if this is what fat free loader sonny boy is getting all pissy assed, he ought to give his mom and stepfather some privacy

see what i mean about putting the puzzle pieces together, i doubt that we have enough

I agree that we probably don't have enough pieces of the puzzle to give good advice here.

I't strange to me that the interaction between the Op and his spouse which he described as bickering, precipitated a blow up between him and the SIL and ended with the OP leaving the home to stay somewhere else and the wife being an emotional wreck. Normally a man does not get bounced from his own home unless his behavior was out of bounds. Whatever was going on was building as he said tensions were high and they were ignoring him before the blow up. In situation like that I'm certain no one was at their best.

The pushing him with his belly is an old fashioned low grade physical intervention for coming between two people in conflict without putting hands on. That's what makes me think there was more than bickering going on between the Op and his wife when the SIL intervened.

unless he bounced by a free loading asshole that he offered to help get back on his feet, fat sil seems to able to afford the upkeep on his corpulence

where's mum on this, is she an enabler, can't see her son is not a man, her boy lives with momma