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Fights,fights,fights

Zen1
Zen1
Me and my partner gets into physical fights. Im 20 weeks pregnant and he still lashes at me. He is so jealous. I love him but I get tired of it. The fighting. Like on night we got into a fight about him not wanting me to get a job. He wants me to stay home with the kids. I want to be a working mom. He don't have a full time job. He DJ.s! This is the third baby. All of the parties dont come through. We need the extra money. I think he dont want me around other men. If I wanted another man. I wouldn't be putting up with his shit. Why is he like that. There is a big age difference. Im 20yrs old and he's 36. Could that be it?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Zen that is a really hard issue. Honestly the main thing is he is trying to control you. don't let him. Also if it's physical fights and he hurts you Don't stick around (look out for yourself and the kids.)
deleted_user
deleted_user
WOW! Honestly that is NOT a very healthy situation for you or your children. Of course you love him but, is that how you want to be loved or love back? I don't want to sound like I am being harsh but, something has to give. Obviously he isn't wanting to do his part. Also, physical abuse and then the children seeing it on top of that is destroying the children and their emotional well being. Get help or get out is my advice! I wish you the best of luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Zen:
Picking up and leaving is harder said that done. You are probably thinking where am I going with 3 kids, and no job. However you do need to look out for yourself and your kids. There is help out there, research and find it. once you show him that you will not put up with his jealousy and bad behaviou, maybe you can make the relationship work. Done let him abuse you reach for help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know that it's hard, but you have to think of your children first. Do you want them to have relationships like this? They watch what you and your husband are doing, and they will model that behavior in their own relationships. I know that you love him. When I left my abusive, alcoholic ex, I still loved him and I cried myself to sleep every night. But I knew that I had to do what was right for my children. They are so much happier now. He would have never changed. It's not the age difference. It's an attempt to control you, and the fact is that no one can control you unless you give that person the power to do so. Giving up your power is a very dangerous thing. The sooner you get it back, the better you will feel.