Family Issues Support Group

Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.

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ninetyone 04/29/2015

It seems like things never change around here. I grew up with my mom and brother, my dad was out of the picture for a long time. Unfortunately after he got in the picture, its as if he is still out of the picture. I have watched my parents relationship fall apart many times. My brother currently lives with his wife to be. I moved back home after graduating college. I was engaged and broke it off and now I am here watching my parents fight every other day. I hardly talk to my dad, he doesn't try to fix anything and I don't bother to. I feel like sad watching my mom cry every other day. He gets mad at us probably 80% of year for no reason or for stupid reasons and just stops talking after he yells at mom for a bit.

I am going to be 24 next month and I'm heart broken over where my family is today. I am upset that I have a piece of shit father. I am afraid I will forever be alone because I have no hope in relationships or being afraid of ending up in my mom's shoes one day.

What frustrates me is he ruins the day and then he goes and ready the holly book like that will fix everything and he cries at the end like a baby. I feel so helpless towards my mom and she really doesn't deserve this miserable life.

DeliAnnem 04/29/2015

I'd see this as an opportunity. You have a college degree. You have a place to live.... Do you have a job? I'd get one (or two!) and put in all my energy into work so you are hardly at home. Save the money. Then, you can put it toward a down payment on a small condo! : )

If you have a fear of ending up like your mother, you probably won't because you have that insight. Start reading books in your spare time. Get into therapy. When they ask what you are reading, tell them.

It's their choice to be in a crappy marriage. Don't worry about their mess. People get what they settle for.

Just focus on your own life. It'll be okay.

Hugs.

alfreda 04/29/2015

I agree with DeliAnnem. You are young, you have choices, you have a degree, insight, and can leave. Your mother made her choices and has to live with the consequences of that. It's sad for you, BUT it's not something you can do anything about. Focus on your future and what you need to do to get there.

Ching 05/11/2015

Not knowing your dad I would guess that he may be bipolar and has severe mood swings. Can you ask your mother and his family (especially his mother) about his mental health? Women usually put up with these guys because of their own livelihood. Just let her know you love her and get on with your life by getting employment so you can move out.

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