Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
So.. my parents recently divorced & i don't know how i feel about it . Since i was young they always went to marriage counseling and stuff . Brought the kids to see their opinions.. asking me knowing i didn't understand the large vocabulary. I said they were fine & i just want them to stay together. Year past by, i moved to NC.. life was great barely any problems lived around family. . Then after 10 years , my dad decided to up & move to PA.. my mom living the south never wanted to move so she got an apartment for the kids . While my dad went up north. Year past & my dad promised alot of things which turned out to be 2% true . The house was the only truth & 1 flat screen for the other 1%.. so we moved unhappily , i graduated high school. My mom moved half way through to cater to my sister pregnancy & i lived alone with my dad for a year & a half till i graduated. . Now im a college boy , ive grown had my own relationships & horribly failed because i looked at my parents relationship & said hellll no to most things that sounded good.. but anyway im in college now . Parents divorced because neither wanted to continue the marriage . When my mom moved i told them to handle it themselves because i didn't want to be in the middle anymore. . So now the divorce is final & now my mom can't finance herself & she's my support system. . My dad being an international worker barely gives me money for food . Puts his name on my college paper because his income is to high for me to get financial aid.. where i need advice is where do i draw the line. . I only wanted to be supported until i can get on my grind but at the same time . Im still getting my bank account drained from my young teenage years.. so im broke, have no specific income. . Go to school, no money to eat (cafe food is shit.. literally).. come home for breaks to work 30,40 hours & still get no money because of payments . It's like sheesh.. will it ever turn around . Idk i just need some wisdom to keep going . Cause im at the point of saying screw school and help my mom maintain but then my dad will disown me because im not going to school to help my mom who he divorced. . Which puts me right back in the f'in middle
Go to the health center and ask for counseling.
Take out loans if necessary.
And cafeteria food is NOT that bad; tell that to a person in Africa...
Counseling and therapy is a good idea because you are going through alot right now. The pressures of school, working, and a collapsed home life are alot for anyone to go through. Develop a good support base of friends and a good companion. Women can be great comforters and soothers if you find the right one.
No matter what - never give up. Yes, it will be hard but that is why successful people are successful. They work hard and persevere through adversity. Those lessons will stand you well all through life. Congratulations on getting into college. Now prove yourself!
very best,
--EJ
Think about how lucky you are to be here instead of Africa. Kind of makes the family drama BS look like a walk in the park next to starvation and Ebola.
Maybe you could go to the Peace Corps to get away from it all...
Hugs.
& Epic i did "find the right one" but i don't know what the hell I'm doing. . My single side loves being free . But my taken side be so mellowed.. lol idk ima just keep with the understanding we got .