Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
My younger sister, (the baby of the bunch) and she mirrors my fathers behavior when she gets angry and upset.
Decided to move back home because she lost her job. she brought home a condo full of furniture, demanded that her care be parked in the garage,
She got a job and makes good money.
When she gets angry and its usually over something small she will turn it into a big issue. She buds in on conversations that I have with my mother when I am trying to work things out that have to do with whatever becomes the problem or issue and when my sister doesn't get what she wants she stomps up stairs and starts slamming doors one after another trying to make everyone feel guilty for her angry feelings. Tonight she missed her chance to do the laundry. She got angry at my mother for not waking her up and she began her stomp around and slam the doors routine. then She budded in to a conversation I was having with my mother because I wanted to wash a few dishes in the sink and had to wait because my sister was cooking and doing her laundry that Day. My father was in der way and he was also cooking and getting in the way. Now at 10:30 pm at night I said,
you think I might be able to use the kitchen and do my chores cuase I waited all day. And that's when my sister budded in saying that there is no reason why I should be using the kitchen and doing my wash at that time. I waited all day and I think that she is just being mean every time she faces the slightest inconvienience and want especially to disturb me before I go to bed.
Decided to move back home because she lost her job. she brought home a condo full of furniture, demanded that her care be parked in the garage,
She got a job and makes good money.
When she gets angry and its usually over something small she will turn it into a big issue. She buds in on conversations that I have with my mother when I am trying to work things out that have to do with whatever becomes the problem or issue and when my sister doesn't get what she wants she stomps up stairs and starts slamming doors one after another trying to make everyone feel guilty for her angry feelings. Tonight she missed her chance to do the laundry. She got angry at my mother for not waking her up and she began her stomp around and slam the doors routine. then She budded in to a conversation I was having with my mother because I wanted to wash a few dishes in the sink and had to wait because my sister was cooking and doing her laundry that Day. My father was in der way and he was also cooking and getting in the way. Now at 10:30 pm at night I said,
you think I might be able to use the kitchen and do my chores cuase I waited all day. And that's when my sister budded in saying that there is no reason why I should be using the kitchen and doing my wash at that time. I waited all day and I think that she is just being mean every time she faces the slightest inconvienience and want especially to disturb me before I go to bed.
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Which explains the mysterious fevers and my extra fatigue. I'm so glad I pushed for answers.
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Due to my increased paranoia, anxiety, and a panic attack over the weekend, my psychiatrist has put me back in a full dose of Zyprexa until further notice. Every time I think I'm getting ahead something happens and it's back to square one. I knew he was gonna do this but I can't help feeling disappointed. It is what it is.
Ultimately, if it's your parents home and they have no problems with the time constraints on the appliances and space being utilized then it's up to them to set some boundaries around who using what and when.
I'd say talk to your parents and if they have no problems, it's either live with the situation or move out into your own space.
When she gets angry and its usually over something small she will turn it into a big issue. She buds in on conversations with cruel intent to disturb me emotionally. Stomps up the stairs, slams the doors, attempts to make other s feel guilty or angry when she has a problem with them. If she's not happy that day she'll make sure no one else is who is in the family. she will shout and treat others like garbage.
The only thing I can think of doing is staying out of her way because she's home mostly on the weekend and so I will try to avoid her.
Secondly,
I moved back home suffering with ptsd I worked my tail off to get this place back into shape their were holes in the walls the ceiling was falling, I had to re pipe and put in a new furnace, the plumbing was shot in every bathroom and I have done a lot more than what I am typing. My parents are elderly and they can't and won't do a lot of things so I helped them out and I busted my hump to make it a quiet and peaceful place to hopefully recover from my stress disorder and then she lost her job because she refused to move with the department at work as suggested by her coworkers, announced her plan to come back home sold her condo, moved all her stuff back, I had to stop everything I was doing to accommodate her so we wouldn't have to walk sideways cuase she was too cheap to get moving storage. Now I gotta put up with her angry outburst every time something doesn't go her way and
More importantly ...I ain't going nowhere! first of all I can't until I can get better. Un like her I will just fall on my face again due to my condition which makes it hard for me to hold and keep a job.
This place would have been condemned if I wasn't around to fix it and I am not going to have someone make things so intolerable to shove me out once I have put in a lot of work to achieve a goal to get well which required first of all getting situated and then having to make many other personal and career changes so I that find suitable job and living arrangements..
The only thing I can think of is try to avoid her and try to avoid interactions with her. She loves to hate too much, especially when she's angry. She could be the sweetest, kindest, charming person at times but forget it when she gets angry she'll wreck the whole day if not the whole week.
I hear your frustration but I'm guessing this is your parents home??
You could ask for a family meeting to see if some of these things can be worked out... If not as others have said it's up to your parents it's their home
You can either work around these things if they can't be worked out or move out
You don't have many other options... Big hug ... I hope problems can be worked through for all of your sake...xo