Ok i need some advice. My parents and my husband don't get along, ok im ok with that not a big deal, however a few months back my dad had a massive heart attack and was really close to passing away. he made it through however in the mean time of dealing with that my husband and I separated for about two months and then when we were getting things back on track my mother decided to disown me which she does quite often so nothing new however for the past 2 months I haven't talked to her or my dad because she told me I was dead to them and I have just stayed away even though I know my dad is sick and actually wants to die so he is going to drink while on his medication and the biggest reason my mother disowned me was because i wasn't doing everything for her that she expected. While my dad was in the hospital for over a month. I visited everyday minus like 2 because my son wasn't feeling well, my mother refused to leave his hospital room and wasn't working so i paid for most of her food and got her clean clothes and did cleaned her house and took care of her cats when my uncle couldn't. I tried to help out as best I could dealing with my own personal hell when my marriage was falling apart at the time. I took my dad to his appointments and I took my mom grocery shopping and what ever. When i told her that my husband was sorry and wanted our family to work she got really mad because i wouldn't be her person slave anymore i guess. She called to ask me to take her to the store, i asked if i could come over later as I had other plans and she got pissed off and said never mind. that evening she said that she was leaving my dad and that i needed to come and take care of him and that she couldn't do it anymore. I called her out and she then disowned me and again told me i was dead to her and my father and that she would never forgive me, then she went on to facebook and told everyone that i was selfish and yeah that was in it for me. After everything i did for her in her time of need when I thought my husband and i were going to get a divorce she told me to suck it up and that everyone has their problems i was no one special.. I know she has been super stressed out but how to do you tell your daughter or family that. So since I have been dead to her I haven't gone by or let my son go over there because she puts him in the middle of the fight. Bashing me and my husband and telling him that i should be doing any of this to her. Ok well here is my question my husband hates that she is being a super witch and that every time i get disowned she never apologizes and then 6 months later it just happens again and he is sick of it. Well my mom text me telling me that my dad is getting worse and that I should let my son go see him and i kind of agree but i know the second that he goes he will call my mom and she will start her bull crap again. While my dad was in the hospital I kinda dealt with the fact that he wouldn't live very long and its sad for me to say i saw this coming and have prepared as best I could for it.. I am heart broken that he won't give up drinking and i am sure he is probably smoking again to but what ever its his life. I have lost most of my family members when i was younger anyways so death is nothing new to me. I want to see him but I am scared and my husband thinks that if i do its just giving into my mother when she is the one that wanted me out of their lives. I am rambling I pretty much said my good byes to my dad when he was in the hospital because he didn't come back the same person because technically he did die and they brought him back after several minutes and he has some brain damage so my dad actually did die and i don't know what to do. Biggest issue is my husband really doesn't want my son seeing them and or me getting hurt anymore and would be super pissed if I went to see them after everything that has happened.