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kupkakegirl
kupkakegirl
My husband hits me. Its not frequent...maybe 2 or 3 times a month. Its usually just slaps to the face and I end up in a head lock where he repeatedly slaps me unless I can drop to the ground and crawl into a ball.

I am left with minor bruising on my arms and legs...maybe a sore spot here and there.

My husband thinks I am being dramatic if I tell him its abuse or not right.

I constantly struggle in my head with "its okay just be happy he is being nice to you today' and "its not right and needs to stop". I know it won't stop.

I just needed to get it out....needed to tell someone. I know its wrong. I know i shouldn't be with him. One day I will be strong enough to leave.
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
If you aren't strong enough but WANT to leave, there are shelters. Take pictures and the police can help.

There's an abuse board on DS. You'll find a lot of support on how to leave on there.

Hugs.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
You should have him charged with assault and go to a shelter sweetie... This is assault... abuse and it will only get worse... It won't just stop ... There is help for you ... Just be safe if you decide to leave and don't let him know where you are.... Gentle hug for you... You deserve better then this....xo
pd2012
pd2012
kupkakegirl, don't minimize the frequency or the level of abuse that your husband inflicts upon you. There is no acceptable reason nor is spousal abuse justifiable under any circumstance.

No amount of hoping or praying is going to make this behavior change. It will only escalate.

The sole purpose of an abuser is to gain control over their victim, it's all about power to fill the void of whatever personality issues they suffer from. It's his issue only and not you, his victim. If you need more validation than from us here on this site, I would talk to family/friends and professionals to gain a better perspective. As Deli mentioned also, there's an abuse board here on DS, the folks there would have good insight. You need to gain emotional strength to say, "enough", I'm better than this and I deserve more than this in my relationship. "You" have not failed anything, your husband has failed you.
wep
wep
If you can please get away from him immediately before things get worse. The hits may get worse and he'll harm you in a terrible way. Do you have children? if so, this is a tragic for them to remember how their father used to hit their mother.
cindy7150
cindy7150
Call this number 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), they will listen and provide appropriate advice.
cachetteen1
cachetteen1
making contact is the first step, which u have done, writing your msg was practice in getting it out. Everyone will tell u to leave, but frankly, you do not have an exit strategy in place and u need one and a safety net when u leave. I am not a professional, but that is who u need to speak with to learn what your options are. Know that u do have options. And I know your scared, for good reason, but there are ppl in worse situations that get out, u can too. Your not alone.
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