Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
My father has been out of my life since I was born. He was always working. When he was home, he would be fighting with my mom. I mean, fights that the police were called to. My dad has been arrested before, and ironically, he works in a jail as a C.O. I'm technically the middle child, but only 1 minute older than my twin sister.
Fights and negative energy are constant in my house. When one describes home, it's of the sugary smell of maple syrup or the joy of togetherness. In my home, I dread the sound of my dad's truck pulling into the driveway. I dread the commotion of violence.
Recently, my dad has been on his toes about something I overheard: He is being humiliated at work or something like that. I get his upset attitude. But we had another fight on Saturday. The fight was over my sister thanking him for something and me apologizing. I mean by that: We both did these things and he just started screaming. He was crying later on, saying he hates living here and he should kick me and my sisters out. I'm not worried about that; he says that every other day. He has now, 2 days later, still not really spoken to any of us nor my mom. When he does, it is a short, bitter reply. I tried giving him a hug, which is a lot since emotion is never really shown in my house. He totally rejected it. I feel like if he died right now, or if I did, then one of us would live with guilt for the rest of our lives based on our current relationship. I am so unhappy with our terms right now, however, I've been questioning whether he loves me or not. That would be a whole other topic, but basically, I want some advice on how I could mend my relationship with my dad. Thanks.
Fights and negative energy are constant in my house. When one describes home, it's of the sugary smell of maple syrup or the joy of togetherness. In my home, I dread the sound of my dad's truck pulling into the driveway. I dread the commotion of violence.
Recently, my dad has been on his toes about something I overheard: He is being humiliated at work or something like that. I get his upset attitude. But we had another fight on Saturday. The fight was over my sister thanking him for something and me apologizing. I mean by that: We both did these things and he just started screaming. He was crying later on, saying he hates living here and he should kick me and my sisters out. I'm not worried about that; he says that every other day. He has now, 2 days later, still not really spoken to any of us nor my mom. When he does, it is a short, bitter reply. I tried giving him a hug, which is a lot since emotion is never really shown in my house. He totally rejected it. I feel like if he died right now, or if I did, then one of us would live with guilt for the rest of our lives based on our current relationship. I am so unhappy with our terms right now, however, I've been questioning whether he loves me or not. That would be a whole other topic, but basically, I want some advice on how I could mend my relationship with my dad. Thanks.
He's been arrested, has a power trip for a job and can't relate to people.
I'd focus on leaving your house to get an education and make a better life for yourself than he could provide. And get into therapy to learn how to have healthy relationships, since he did not provide that model for you. Once you start dating, you will be drawn to Daddy types who abuse and never validate you... You don't want that pattern in your life. I was there, so I know of what I speak.
Hugs.