Let me address your post each topic at a time.

College finances: It is wonderful that your parents provided you the opportunity to obtain a college education. However, I do not think it is appropriate at all for your dad to talk to you they way he did. You are not at fault for your dad's "crappy" life. His life is his alone and if it is crappy, then he needs to do something about it. He is taking out his stress and discontent on you, which is not right. How many more semesters do you have to go to finish your education? You could look into funding it yourself through loans or grants and bypass your parents all together. It is possible, I have done it. Please talk to your financial aid department.

Your mother picking the college: It seems like this is to far in the past to change, but I hope that you also like the college you are attending. I think too many parents do things in the interest of protecting or helping their college-aged children, when they really should back off and let them make some decisions for themselves. You can't learn how to navigate life with someone making decisions for you.

Your mother yelling at you in the car: This bothers me a lot. You deserve more respect than that. It is not her choice what you major in. She may think you need to be a nurse, but you may not have the desire or the drive to be one. I work in healthcare and there are more than enough people that go into those careers for the wrong reasons. Being a nurse or any healthcare provider is a very important job. You are caring for the sick and disabled. If you heart is not in it, you don't belong in the job. This again brings me back to you funding your own college. If you do that, then you parents truly have no say in what you do or don't do. Your mom may feel she has the right to dictate things because she pays for it. Though that should not be the case, as she should want you to succeed and be happy in the career you choose.

Crying in front of people: Sometimes you need to get it out. It is very hard to figure out what you want to do for living at a young age. I am in my mid 30's and only discovered a few years ago what I wished I would have pursued as a career. I think it is rare that someone goes to college at 18 and finds the perfect career. Give yourself time to grow and experience life. You will find your passions.

Your mom laughing at you: I don't know your mom, but I will give her the benefit of the doubt when I say she might not realize she is hurting you. If she is the type that has no filter and says what she thinks without regard to the effect, then she may truly believe she hasn't done anything wrong. You need to tell her that you don't appreciate being treated like that, if you haven't already. Hopefully if you are honest and let her know how you feel, she will consider that in the future. If she doesn't, then let her know you will not allow her to do it. She can treat you with respect or you can and will limit your interaction with her. It will be her choice. You do not have to expose yourself to disrespectful people, even your parents.

Please continue seeing your counselor. Also are there any clubs or campus events you can attend to meet people with similar interests? Sometimes you can meet great people in unusual circumstances. Also how about living on your own during breaks from college. Can you rent an apartment or stay on campus? It might help you break away from feeling like you are still your parent's little girl. I do know how you feel. I have many issues with depression and anxiety myself. Even though it is tough to do sometimes, you have to push yourself to get up and work at it. It does help. You can message me if you need to talk.

Not much left to say...

Except to focus on graduation and getting a job so you don't have to deal with them any more. What IS your major, anyway?

Hugs.

Thank you for the responses:

To: DeliAnpnem- I'm currently a psychology major in my senior year, however, I want to continue to get my masters and get a certificate to become a human resource manager. I also want to become an entrepreneur but I'm not sure in what industry; all I know is that I want to be my own boss.

To: 17butterfly49- Thank you for your advice. I'm trying my best to find a job. Because my social anxiety its pretty difficult find a job that doesn't require interacting with a lot of people. Though I love to talk to people one-on-one I feel nervous being in a large group. Until I find a steady job I can't purchase a car or get my own place to live. I do look at different organization on my campus but they just seem to conflict with my schedule. Going to the gym on campus has been a great outlet for my depression along with interacting with my classmates.

Regarding my parents: My dad is passive-aggressive and depressed while my shows signs of narcissism and can get really angry over little things.

Can you get a job on campus? Sometimes you can get additional financial aid to help with room and board. I would talk to your financial aid department about your options. Unfortunately, you cannot change your parents. They have to choose to change themselves. However, you can set boundaries with your parents. Set the boundaries and stick to them. You can't control their choices and life, but you can control yours.

Hi: As I read your post I was wondering if your parents drank (same as "Dr. D").
I am light years older than you but my father used to pitch a fit about paying for his daughters' college. I worked all though college but the dysfunction at home caused me a lot of emotional pain.

I now have a son in college and realize what a huge sacrifice this is. You can't change your responsibilities as a parent just because you're sick of it.

By the time I was out of college, I was with the man I am now married to. When I told my parents about my engagement at age 23 my father went crazy about the responsibilities of paying for a wedding. My husband and I paid for almost everything with him paying some toward the meal.

I think all that fear of being dependent on someone and how lousy that can feel has taken a toll on me, lifelong.
You sound like a nice person and good for your for getting yourself through college. I am sorry that your parents aren't supportive and happy about your accomplishments.
If you can learn one thing in this life it is that "You are OK", they are messed up for whatever reason. It's not your fault.

DrSD- unfortunately, DD is not finished with college- can't do much with a BS in psych- gonna have to do for a masters...

Why HR? That's not being your own boss.

How about going into private practice or becoming a life coach?

Most of us abused people go into the health/service industries...

You mention depression and anxiety- are you currently taking meds for those?

Well, my father likes to drink alcohol in the evening but not an extreme amount of it. According to my mom, he drank a lot he was a teenager (12yrs old I believe) when he met my mom. He's more passive aggressive but he would have times when he would rage at us, especially at my brothers. My brothers picked his drinking and smoking habits (my father doesn't smoke anymore) but he gets anger at them and call them stupid . My mom would rage over little things like the way I do I hair( I wrote about when she physical pulled my hair because she wanted me to chemically straighten it) or when we just don't agree with ever thing she says. What I ultimately want to be is an entrepreneur, possibly in the weightlifting and the nutrition industry as I love to go to the campus gym whenever I can and I love to reach about healthy eating; I feel really feel happy doing these activities. I'm just exploring the HR Manager role as I like the idea of accessing how people feel in their work environment and how to communicate with people to build my confidence with speaking to others. This career path isn't a permanent change. All I know is that my mind always lean to being like these creative entrepreneurs who made a difference people's lives.

HR is responsible for firing people and covering the company's @ss.

Daydreamer, if entrepreneurism is really your area of interest, an MBA would do wonders for you, and also qualify you for many business management positions, including HR. If you want to use the psychology, you might need to get a M.A. in education to become a school counselor, etc. I like the "life coach" idea that was presented earlier if you want to bring in your physical/health fitness interests.

I don't think it helps to bash your parents. Most families have some level of dysfunction, and most parents are as mistake-ridden as their children are. If your parents are paying for your college education, they are doing a great service for you. Many parents don't do that for their children, especially if it is a financial struggle for them. Take a job, even if the pay is not very good. Babysit for a good family. They often pay $10 - $15 per hour for a trustworthy sitter, and you might be able to do light studying while they watch a movie or something.

Trust me, your parents are not your enemy. When you work, you may have to put up with a boss who makes your parents look like Mr. Rogers. Best of luck to you.

--EJ