Family Issues Support Group
Family issues is a huge range that go from minor conflict to major misbehaviour and even abuse on the part of individual members of the family occur. Whether you feel you are in a dysfunctional family or you're dealing with a very specific issue, this is the place to talk about it and find others who might be going through the same thing.
Hi there I need some opinions. I have been married for 7 years during those years we've tried to get pregnant. My baby brother got married in Nov. He and his bride got pregnant around that time. They ended up losing the baby. :( now after working for so long my husband and I are expecting!!! We will be 12 weeks on mothers day weekend. I have decided to tell my mother on mothers day but I want to wait a few days after mothers day to tell my brother and sister in law. I'm trying to be sincere and caring of her feelings as she would have been half way through her pregnancy. I don't want to hurt her like I was hurt when they told us, it was a very rude way. I want to be mature and understanding unlike they were. I think it will relieve them because I'm the oldest and have been trying for so long and there are no grandkids. I told a close friend that I was going to wait to tell my brother and sister in law but I'm wondering what someone in my sister in laws shoes would feel. I have not had a miscarriage but I know what its like on the infertility end and have compassion for all the s5ituations. Thank you!!!
I have never suffered a miscarriage myself, but I did suffer some secondary infertility. I remember a very painful NYE when my husband and I went out with a group of friends for dinner. Half the couples there were expecting...one a set of twins. Several people asked me if we were planning to have more children...it was awful.
I think you are being very sensitive to your SIL and brother's feelings by waiting to tell them until after Mother's Day. In all likelihood, the news will probably be hard for them to take, especially since their loss is still fresh, but hopefully they will eventually be able to be happy for you. It might not be until the baby is here, but hopefully by then they'll be expecting their own baby and yours will have a cousin to play with.
You may find that she's very, very happy for you both and if she's not; then there's not much you can do. I think you are a very nice person in general and don't want to deliberately hurt another person's feelings but this is a time for rejoicing for you.
Being pregnant is a wonderful time and at the end, you get the best present of all; a tiny person you made. I'm so happy for you!
I appreciate all the nice things and support...sometimes it is really nice to get on here and see how supportive and helpful good or bad people are. Thank you again!!! :)
She's lucky to have you for a SIL. A very considerate person; not all family members are so lucky.