My husband is nice the majority of the time. We have a severely Autistic daughter, and he helps a lot w/ her. 

 There are too many times, however that he's nasty, or makes a nasty remark out of the blue ...for no reason. Today we went to a water park. We were trying to get sunblock on everyone. I asked him to put some on my shoulders, then "do my neck".  His response was "How can I do your neck when you don't have a neck?". Yes, really!! I am more than slightly overweight, and I know that was a reference to my weight. What is really ridiculous is that he is saying I am "taking it the wrong way". How could that have any other meaning?!!!!!  I would appreciate some opinions anyway. He always plays this game ...says something nasty, and then says I am taking it the wrong way!!!!!

I am ready to get a divorce. I can barely look at this person anymore. As I said, he does do a lot to help w/ our daughter ...but a lot of times he implies that he's doing more than me. It just happened again tonight. Maybe he does a lot sometimes just so he can put me down. We BOTH do a lot. If I split w/ him, my kids and I will likely end up in worse place than we are now ...like an apartment. Maybe it would be worth it not to have to take this abuse.