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kitara
kitara

I can't go into much details (I promised to not tell anyone, but I'm getting desperate) but my boyfriend had an emotionally and physically abusive childhood, although the physical abuse stopped I think five years ago.


We're only teenagers and I just want to know how I can help him. With PTSD and suicidal thoughts and depression and low self esteem (which of course his family won't get him therapy for), his conflictions on wether he should keep his family in his life, how I'm supposed to cope when learning about things that have happened to him (I'm the only person he's opened up to and I don't want to lose his trust (I know I'm really pushing it here but I need some help myself badly)) and just... Please, advice? 

simplymebp
simplymebp
Is he old enough to seek therapy on his own?? And those people are toxic to him. I understand that they are family that they are blood. Unfortunately its because of those reasons that they think he is their personal punching bag. He will never be able to heal and over come the abuse if they are in his life.
pd2012
pd2012
Kitara, my advice for you should he be under the age of 18 and still in school is to get him to talk to his guidance counselor at school. He needs professional counseling and that would be a great place to start.

I would also suggest that you talk to your counselor also. This is a tremendous weight of responsibility having this knowledge and you need coping skills to help not only yourself but your boyfriend also.
kitara
kitara
He's been homeschooled his whole life and I can't seem to find any councilers nearby in my families price range . And I'm trying to get him to see that they're not good for him, and that he needs to try and make friends so he's there less often, but because he's only known his family and barely anyone else in his life, especially super few off the internet, he's terrified to lose them. I understand all this but I'm trying to convince him to go into public schooling which I know he'd enjoy and he'd feel less lonely there, as well be okay with not talking to them much if at all once he moves out. Does anyone have advice on how to help convince him that this will be okay and such?