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It so happens I fell in love with him. And from my last entry i rarely get to log in so thanks to those who wrote. Well it so happens my baby's father went on a chat line, called a girl and its like I found out she was a teenager and we are 33 and he had phone sex with her? Really? He was on the phone for over an hour she said to know things that I knew he does say. Am I wrong for spying? Am I wrong for wanting to know who he's become? Help me what do I do?
DeliAnnem
I don't quite understand you, but if you are saying that the father or your child is contacting a teenager for sexual purposes, then you need to leave him and report him to the police if under 18.
hildas
Read this article http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheating and leave him. You are right and that is all.
Juneday
Leave him and report him to the police. If he is contacting a person under 18 then there is a bigger issue, You have a child with him what if some older person contact your teenage child. Would you want that person reported. Now a days you need to protect you and your child.
pd2012
I agree with all the above. You should definitely for not only your sake but for the sake of your child, leave this man and not look back. I would also report "anyone" who I caught on line or in any way having any kind of sexual contact with a minor!
fotog
I'm wondering how you know for sure that she's a teenager- if she's just some stranger on a chat line, she could be a 45 year old housewife or junkie just playing a role. Or "teenager" includes 18 and 19 year olds who are legal. But, in any event, I personally don't consider someone talking dirty on a chat line to be actual cheating. A colossal waste of money, yes, and possibly a sign of a problem in the relationship, but not proof that the relationship is unfixable and not worth saving. Are there other problems between you two that are even worse? Like, verbal abuse? Disrespect? Constant fighting? Because, those are definitely things worth leaving someone over.
fotog
Just saw your other post, and, yeah, he does seem seriously, mentally abusive, and not worth trying to fix the relationship for. He sounds like (and acts like) he's got a borderline personality disorder, and people with that problem are almost impossible to help. Look up Borderline Personality Disorder and you'll see a list of traits that they have. If your guy has a lot of those traits, then you'll know what you're dealing with. One major trait is that they can't feel much empathy or love (though they may be good at pretending they do, just to manipulate people). So... what looks like love or caring or help to you, is really just controlling, manipulative behavior to keep you under his thumb, and keep you believing that you're not good enough or strong enough to get away and survive without him.
mymorejon917
I agree with what you all are saying and I am fearing myself for not knowing how to walk away, for fear for my daughter now, a fear I did not have previously. I fear he will kidnap her leave her with strangers, get and leave her dirty, basically neglect her, and I won't know what to do. The girl he did that with says she is 19 but she sent me a picture and she looks younger. I dont know how to report this as there is no official proof and I dont want my daughter to be in the middle of any issues. I'm in a lot of fear, sorry...
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