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anonymous5
anonymous5
Hi all,

My father threatened my brother following a conflict between them, and he threatened me some number of months later, because I had difficulty forgiving him. He claimed things were going to get worse and that I was responsible for actions (I know I'm not). Several months after that my brother has me talk with him to clear things up, and my father claims the events were "minor incidents", which they obviously weren't.

Things have calmed down and my father hasn't done anything that bad since then, but I was wondering if anyone had any advice about the situation, and about forgiveness, which I am still having difficulty with.
lizzymarie01
lizzymarie01
Hmmm... Not sure how much I can help... That is really horrible, and i'm not sure if forgiveness is a good option right now... What about your mom? It'll get better... Ugh so much of that "it will get better" crap :P
anonymous5
anonymous5
Thanks, my mother's alright but she drinks every night. She's been doing that for a while, I don't really know when it started. She claims it helps her sleep, which is probably true.
Hotcocoa27
Hotcocoa27
Hi Anonymous. I struggled with this before too. I am in an abusive marriage. Forgiveness can be hard. I think forgiveness is important so that you can keep focused on your life and not allow him to drag you down. However, forgiveness does not mean that everything must go back to normal. I find myself saying this all the time to my husband, "I forgive you, but this doesn't mean things are better between us." He doesn't have control over your feelings and can't tell you that you should feel better. Only you can decide that for yourself. Best of Luck!
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
I'm confused- if they were minor incidents, then why did he threaten his kids?

I was going to ask if alcohol was involved, and now I see you said your mom drinks- what about your dad?

I'd stay removed from the situation.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
What do you mean by threatened??... What was the threat?
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