Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
how can i show someone respect when they show me no respect . she saysi don't show it but she doesn't show it either . my fiance is bio polar . iti s hard and i need some help . some encoragement for a bio polar spouse with NO meds.
I do believe that mutual respect is in order for you guys to both get on the same page. It may start with you or her, doesn't matter. If you love each other, you'll be willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. Butting heads isn't the answer.
I will say that her not being on meds, you're asking for trouble with that. When my wife wasn't even on the correct meds, it was impossible for us to see eye to eye b/c she had so much other stuff going on in her head that she couldn't focus on what the problems were outside her own backyard, so to speak.
I think based on my own history that meds have to be part of the agreement in order to stay together, period. It's a definite deal breaker for me if she were to go off them and she knows it. Now that she's been on her meds, she's seen what not being on them has cost both herself and her family.
So essentially it starts and ends with meds. Any kind of argument or work done on any facet of your relationship is useless unless she is med compliant. If she really wants your love and respect, she'll have to take that first step in order to make it possible. Otherwise, you're just giving her what she wants and not asking for anything in return, which sounds like is the case at this point. If you're sure you're willing to see this thru with her to the end, tell her and make sure she knows that you're in her corner, but that you can't sacrifice yourself in lieu of her being unmedicated. Period. If not, you'll keep giving of yourself with nothing in return, which I assume has been the norm so far.
Good luck,
Kuup