Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
My ex-husband was diagnosed bipolar over 6 years ago. He denies this diagnosis but I have seen the paperwork myself from the doctor as well as the prescriptions the doctor prescribed for him. He refused after one month to take the meds. He now "self medicates" .....he smokes marijuana daily.
My concern is that my soon to be 10 year old is confused about his identity. His father and I are completely different personalities. I am a easy going mostly happy go getting type personality. I shrug things off on the outside and move on with my day, I still stress on issues but not noticeably. His father will fret on issues (some that don't even concern him and his surroundings) and let it allow to ruin his entire day.
I have full custody of our son, something his father has never challenged in our 6 yrs of being divorced.
The situation was the other day when I took my child to the dentist. Believe it or not he loves going to the dentist. We got there to the office only to find out that we were a entire month early. I chuckled about it, but my child was really upset about it to the point that he treated me mean and ugly. I told him that was uncalled for considering the mistake didn't warrant that type of behavior. it was a simple mistake, that I was sorry and because it did not have any negative on the rest of our day that we should be able to just chuckle about it and move on.
My child responded with " its hard for me to know how to act, you act one way and dad acts another" .....
that is concerning to me to say the least.
All I could say is that he shouldn't be concerned about acting like either of us. But finding himself and who wants to be. Maybe he will be a little of both of us?
My child is super smart, one of the smartest in his grade level, so watching him struggle emotionally is hard.
I can't talk to his father about non of this....The only kind of respond I get is "you cant dictate what happens in my house" or " you always think you have been perfect"....
no he is wrong, I am anything but perfect. But I am willing to do whatever it takes to help my innocent child emotionally.
His father was against our child seeing a councilor, but after a couple months excepted it.
I am trying to do all I can to help my son deal with the reality of the situation. His father just tells him stuff like..."your going to be overly sensitive just like me because you're my son"......
My concern is that my soon to be 10 year old is confused about his identity. His father and I are completely different personalities. I am a easy going mostly happy go getting type personality. I shrug things off on the outside and move on with my day, I still stress on issues but not noticeably. His father will fret on issues (some that don't even concern him and his surroundings) and let it allow to ruin his entire day.
I have full custody of our son, something his father has never challenged in our 6 yrs of being divorced.
The situation was the other day when I took my child to the dentist. Believe it or not he loves going to the dentist. We got there to the office only to find out that we were a entire month early. I chuckled about it, but my child was really upset about it to the point that he treated me mean and ugly. I told him that was uncalled for considering the mistake didn't warrant that type of behavior. it was a simple mistake, that I was sorry and because it did not have any negative on the rest of our day that we should be able to just chuckle about it and move on.
My child responded with " its hard for me to know how to act, you act one way and dad acts another" .....
that is concerning to me to say the least.
All I could say is that he shouldn't be concerned about acting like either of us. But finding himself and who wants to be. Maybe he will be a little of both of us?
My child is super smart, one of the smartest in his grade level, so watching him struggle emotionally is hard.
I can't talk to his father about non of this....The only kind of respond I get is "you cant dictate what happens in my house" or " you always think you have been perfect"....
no he is wrong, I am anything but perfect. But I am willing to do whatever it takes to help my innocent child emotionally.
His father was against our child seeing a councilor, but after a couple months excepted it.
I am trying to do all I can to help my son deal with the reality of the situation. His father just tells him stuff like..."your going to be overly sensitive just like me because you're my son"......
If you have full custody of your son, then you must have a reason to not have taken him to a counselor. I mean, you are giving your ex a chance to contribute? That is kind of you but that sort of thing incenses me. If I had full custody of my daughter I would so take her to a therapist and to hell if my ex liked it or not. If it is for the child, then that is the only thing that matters.
Our son is receiving therapy twice a week for the past year by a councilor at school. She works through the state. It is helping some.