Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group
This community is dedicated to parents, siblings, grandparents, other relatives and friends of someone who is Bipolar. The purpose of this community is to help families and friends develop greater patience and understanding, as well as maintain a positive, caring relationships with those diagnosed as Bipolar.
My Ex BP dumped me on new years day, after we spent NYE together. He was so happy with me and loved me so much! We had a lot in common and our families are like identical how we were raised. My BP ex is very sweet guy, very lovable and charming. He was never mean to me and he never did anything horrible. Then out of the blue broke up with me and told me he didn't love me anymore. I am still very heartbroken. He did say we could talk in a few months but he said there no promises. He said hes willing to talk and see if we can be friends or if there something still there. I dont understand what a few months is going to do. I know he adjusted his medciation I wonder if that has anything to do with it? He also missed his meds the night before. When he was breaking up with me he just kept telling me he is unhappy and he doesnt love me. He needs to foucs on himself. He told me hes more then willing to talk in a few months. Its been so hard these last 6 weeks. I miss him all the time and I hope he is doing well. I guess I didnt understand the extent of his BP until after we broke up and then I did a lot of research. Maybe adjusting his medicaiton was a tirgger. idk I just feel sad, here was a guy who I thought really loved me and cared about me. I dont usually date and I am bit older then him but he was so into me I finally gave in. I just feel heartbroken I lost my bf lost my job and I just feel like WOW life sometimes can really throw you lemons. I dont know if I should reach out or not or wait another month?
He seems like hes totally fine with out me, it hurts me because I did a lot for him I really cared about him, and I took care of him. We shared alot together and we were really close. I dont know if we will get back together or not. I am taking this time to get my self together but somedays are still really hard.
I almost wish he was terrible to me that way I have a reason to hate him but he wasnt mean when he was breaking up with me. He was sorta vacant I didnt really recognize him when he was breaking up with me. He told me loved me an hour before he broke up with me and then the next hour he broke up with me. It was 180 flip I was so confused and he was so serious and there was nothing I could do to change his mind. he just said he did love me and but he doesnt anymore and he needs to be by himself.
How do we pick ourself back up when there is no closure? Do I move on or wait a few months. Does he even know what he did?
Do some research and figure out what you really want.
Good luck.
@SeekingTheStars I know my ex he would get overwhelmed a lot, or he wouldn't understand all the social queues, so I would have to explain them to him and he was always very kind and appreciate about it. I would def give him sometime. From what I hear they just need space. I have ADHD, and I know how my mind works, its very exhausting. When sometimes they get a lot of emotions or a lot of text or emails it becomes overwhelming where you almost become paralyzed and unable to even answer. I know it should stupid like duh answer an email but its like too much stimuli. I don't have the ability to turn my brain off or not think of something, it isnt easy for me, so I can only imagine what its like for them. I would give him some space, maybe email him and ask if you two can meet up and talk in few months. ? In the two months I would do your research and see if this is the life you want.
@Madethkat Thank you for your words as well, you are right I need to figure out what I want. I know my head and my heart are not matching up right now. I miss him all the time, and there not a day that goes by I don't think of him and hope he is okay. I got in between of getting angry and then feeling really sad, that someone who so wonderful has to have such sad illness. It sucks because they are wonderful people and when BP takes over it just sucks, it sucks for all parties involved. I guess I wonder if he will change his mind at all? The only thing I cant really find information on is BP I and BP II , I know the difference between them I wonder if they react differently and if there diff triggers for each one? I wonder if being in relationship is more difficult then one or the other. I feel I read a lot about BP II but not much or many people with partners wth BP 1. I want to speak to my ex so I can tell him information about what I learned, I know he is a guy who is willing to do the work. I just want him to have good life with me in it or not. I know he is sensitive how do I bring up a conversation about his BP with out offending him, or placing blame that he dumped me because of this? I am not always good with my words, I am more action orientated person. I think I want to meet up with him and talk to him thats all i know for sure. As if I should get back together with him or if he still has feelings for I think I need to think about it. I guess my last question is, even if they act like they don't care and they are totally over you, do they care at all? or feelings just literally disappear like the wind?